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Originally Posted by Parnassia
Agree. He must have visited other people's homes and seen how differently they are managed. He has made a choice that suits him for better or worse. His "radar" about cleanliness is obviously different. Tricking or cajoling him into getting the place cleaned will probably embarrass and humiliate him. I had a close relative who lived somewhat like that as he aged...not quite as bad, but it was enough to disgust me. Saying anything (even supposedly subtle or witty comments about the condition) just put them on the defensive and made them even more unwilling to do anything about it. They certainly were well aware of it. Defiance, defensiveness, and anger will ruin a relationship. Don't understand why you can't see that. The next time he kindly offers to accommodate you, turn him down. Maybe that will make an impression, but there will probably be unintended consequences.
Not your business nobody's business. Back off.
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Okay, you people are really dense, and so predictable - just always say "none of your business," and assume that anyone asking for advice is the bad person and that the one they are talking about is the good person - it's just ridiculous how predictable these responses are - all about "rights" - just no help, what-so-ever.
I am increasingly sick of dumb people, of which there seem to be surplus of everywhere!
Yes, he has visited other people's homes! DUH! He's not retarded - he is in denial and a certain personality style that is very rigid - if you would bother to read about the Enneagram Nine, you might be able to comprehend the type of personality I am dealing with - but no, that would be too informative.
I do not wish to hurt his feelings and will gently suggest I will arrange a cleaning.
Thanks for nothing, advise-wise.