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Old 10-29-2019, 07:54 PM
 
Location: Worcester MA
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It very much depends, some houses are so bad that children serves had to remove the children, feces everywhere, old dirty dishes, trash etc.. I wouldn’t call the good people. There
Are people who are clean who do to for other reasons as well.
I was going to say something like this. If a house is so bad, like hoarding conditions, with literally trash all over, insects, rodents, dead animals, barely room to walk, fire hazard and such, and one controlling person refuses to clean or allow anyone else to clean, and yet are forcing children, pets and other people to live in such hazardous conditions, then yes, I think they're a horrible person, mental illness or not.
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Old 10-29-2019, 07:56 PM
 
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I knew an older man who wouldn't clean his condo and he had two suicide books , same book, one was written up in, and the other had no writing.
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Old 10-29-2019, 07:58 PM
 
Location: 'greater' Buffalo, NY
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Messy house, messy mind.
Maybe to some extent, but perhaps not quite in the pejorative way you seem to imply. I've read studies in that past that posit a correlation between 'propensity for living in a cluttered environment' and exhibiting creativity. Think of the stereotype of the frazzled artist for example. As a sample size of one, I do my individual part to help strengthen that correlation. I currently have about 40 books scattered on the floor around where I sleep--to me, that's comforting. It's also not animals-breeding-in-the-corner-level filth, though, either.
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Old 10-29-2019, 08:01 PM
 
Location: 'greater' Buffalo, NY
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yes
Good, thoughtful answer.

Hope you're capable of detecting sarcasm.
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Old 10-29-2019, 08:06 PM
 
Location: 'greater' Buffalo, NY
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yes.
Having a messy house doesn't make one a bad person, but issuing one-word answers in the affirmative to the OP does make you a thoughtless one.
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Old 10-29-2019, 08:09 PM
 
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I knew an older man who wouldn't clean his condo and he had two suicide books , same book, one was written up in, and the other had no writing.
There is a condo here where the floors are all covered in beer cans.
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Old 10-29-2019, 09:01 PM
 
Location: OHIO
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No, not at all. Unless your mess is harming others (kids, pets, etc) and you refuse to get help. Even then I think "horrible" is a strong word in most cases.
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Old 10-29-2019, 09:11 PM
 
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No, not at all. Unless your mess is harming others (kids, pets, etc) and you refuse to get help. Even then I think "horrible" is a strong word in most cases.
usually something like that means the person is unwell.
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Old 10-29-2019, 09:29 PM
 
Location: Traveling
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My apartment is often messy, having moved from a 2 bedroom to a 1 bedroom and I am in the process of decluttering but it takes time. Having a really bad back is frustrating.

As to the person the op pointed out, I can't imagine not cleaning for that length of time. Sounds like a case of depression.

Does it make them a bad person? Not necessarily. Mental health issues can cause a myriad of problems, and not always easy to spot. But, it can also lead to health issues due to germs.

Occasionally I will watch episodes of hoarders. Frankly, I feel sorry for the people as they don't know where to turn. That's a mental health issue, but that doesn't make them bad people.
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Old 10-30-2019, 12:49 AM
 
Location: Eugene, Oregon
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There is a condo here where the floors are all covered in beer cans.

Why doesn't the owner invite a can collector in, to gather them up for the deposits? They'd both he happy. This discussion has me wondering if early people kept their caves spotlessly clean?
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