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To start, I know not ALL women are like this, but nevertheless, I have noticed something and would appreciate input. I have noticed that, for the most part, when women get together they will usually just sit around talking but really don't get together to do activities. Now sure that's fine and all, but I find it curious why that is, as in for example, with me and my guy friends we get together to do all sorts of things; play video games, go bowling (part of a bowling league), putt-putt, camping etc. etc. And while we all have jobs and some are married with kids, we can still call each other up and say "hey, want to get together and do x, y and z?" and usually don't have a problem finding guys to do so.
Or like last Saturday, bunch of bros came over, we played a few hours of video games then one of them said something about putt-putt and we all thought it was a great idea and we just all hopped in my car and off we went, after that I suggested some bowling and we did that, then all went home.
Yet it really doesn't seem as if it's really the same with women. Now, again, if they just want to talk that's well and good, but you look at say when women have girl's night out, they may go to a nice restaurant or something but still, they're really not doing that much different than when they're hanging out at home. Perhaps it's just me, but doesn't seem as if it happens as often among women where kind of like my example where say women get together, talk and then one might say "Hey, let's all go bowling, or play putt-putt" and they all just get into a car together and go out for some different physical activities.
Again, not saying it's bad, just an observation I find interesting.
Interesting observation, and very true when it comes to me and my friends. We usually go out to dinner or drinks for our GNO. Rarely we do an activity, and when we do, it is so much more fun. I think the challenge with my group of friends is finding something that interests all of us.
OP, there are all kinds of women out there, just like there are all kinds of guys. Most of the guys I know don't "do stuff" together, hop in the car and go here or there; they just hang out at home. And these aren't even guys, who are into video games. OTOH, with some women friends, I do get together for long chats, because we're too busy to see each other often, so we need time to catch up on news, discuss our latest projects and discuss ideas, interesting research, etc., and so forth. With others, we "do stuff": go to the plant nursery to get items for the garden, help each other around the house (I had one friend who did her own home improvement projects, and needed a hand hanging kitchen cupboards she'd built, and that kind of thing), or drive out of town to a scenic spot to walk in nature, or go folk dancing together. None of us do girls' nights out, as we're not interested in clubs and alcohol. We might see a film together, though.
So, whatever. Sorry your crowd isn't more diverse. What can I say?
I think women often DO join up to DO things, at different stages in their lives.
I've been involved in gardening clubs, which were comprised mostly of women.
In churches, you'll often find missionary groups that are almost always only women.
Quilting clubs are mostly women.
Now...with younger women...it could be that women seem to primarily just like to meet up with friends and talk, because younger women tend to have younger children, and it's not so easy to just pick up and 'go' on a dime. One has to hire a babysitter to GO somewhere, other than taking the kids and going to the park, or McDonald's Playland, or something like that.
Talking is how I connect with my friends and share our lives. In the limited time we have, I need meaningful connections that doing an activity doesn't offer me. We are more inclined to activities when husbands are along.
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I agree with you. A group of friends of mine got together and decided to have a standing monthly activity day. We jokingly called ourselves the "Adventure Club". We rotated who got to plan the outing. Turns out, I'm the only one who didn't consider going out to Happy Hour an "Adventure". 'Cuz that's pretty much all we ever did.
Talking is how I connect with my friends and share our lives. In the limited time we have, I need meaningful connections that doing an activity doesn't offer me. We are more inclined to activities when husbands are along.
I work full-time, have 3 kids, and have my MIL living with me. So my girl time is much-needed DOWN time. I can take my kids bowling or to mini-golf, but I need a long dinner or a pedicure to catch up with my BFF.
Interesting observation, and very true when it comes to me and my friends. We usually go out to dinner or drinks for our GNO. Rarely we do an activity, and when we do, it is so much more fun. I think the challenge with my group of friends is finding something that interests all of us.
I've noticed when you do see women doing an activity like me and my guy friends do they're usually with some guys as well. While I am sure they exist, I have never seen an all female bowling league for example.
OP, there are all kinds of women out there, just like there are all kinds of guys. Most of the guys I know don't "do stuff" together, hop in the car and go here or there; they just hang out at home. And these aren't even guys, who are into video games. OTOH, with some women friends, I do get together for long chats, because we're too busy to see each other often, so we need time to catch up on news, discuss our latest projects and discuss ideas, interesting research, etc., and so forth. With others, we "do stuff": go to the plant nursery to get items for the garden, help each other around the house (I had one friend who did her own home improvement projects, and needed a hand hanging kitchen cupboards she'd built, and that kind of thing), or drive out of town to a scenic spot to walk in nature, or go folk dancing together. None of us do girls' nights out, as we're not interested in clubs and alcohol. We might see a film together, though.
So, whatever. Sorry your crowd isn't more diverse. What can I say?
But couldn't you do that while engaging in an activity? Like when my friends and I get together we can be playing video games or bowling and still we chat, catch up, discuss things etc. They don't need to be mutually exclusive.
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