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OMG, the fact that he is older makes me even more disgusted, I thought maybe he was fresh out of living at home with his mommy and daddy and didn't know better.
I take it you're the only person on the lease? If so, and given the high rents in your area, I'd mention he's threading on thin ice and may soon have to move unless he has the decency to cover up. I'm sure you'd have no trouble finding a replacement.
If you two are roommates, it is as much his home as it is yours. He's rude, but he can wear what he wants to wear in the privacy of his own home.
If you are on the lease and he is not, give him proper written notice to vacate. Find a different roommate.
seven miles out of town is nothing in the Western states. No one would blink an eye at that. Unless your roommate is expected to provide care for you, no one is going to care if you are handicapped unless you can't take care of yourself or do your own dishes.
You are on a ranch. Is there room for a horse? If so, advertise for a new roommate who has a horse and you can get some female horse person who will be delighted to drive 7 miles on a gravel road to live where their horse is right there with them.
My experience with horse people is that they tend to be very responsible. Screen really carefully, just in case.
....... It's hard for me to find individuals that I consider trustworthy given the circumstances.......
If your current roomie already flaunts his lack of respect for you and your sense of propriety (as well as flaunting his body and so-called masculinity) then he is already to be considered not trustworthy and he is a risk to you. He's sending you a blatant message that he is younger, stronger and has authority - more power and control over you and will do as he pleases. He is challenging you to try to do something about it and see where it gets you. He thinks he has you over a barrel because he is male, younger, stronger and you are female, older, weaker, disabled and at his mercy because of your isolated location.
If I was in similar circumstances (I have been, in the past) I personally would consider somebody like that could be potentially very dangerous towards me with the passage of time and with more familiarity breeding more contempt on his part, so I would not have someone like that for a room mate, especially not when living in such an isolated location. I suggest you not buy a robe or any other clothing for him as to do so could be a signal to him that you are trying to appease him and are acknowledging his superiority over you. Guys like him, at his age, they don't get better, they get worse and worse. Any show of appeasement will only result in him flaunting his ego and power over you in more ways.
I do understand you're in a bit of a pickle right now because of your location and personal living circumstances but I think you should try to find a woman to replace him as soon as possible and get rid of that guy. Or else start making every effort now to find a place of your own in town. Considering your personal circumstances I think if you ever have a roomie again it would be much wiser to get a woman who is more docile and easy going, not a man. Also, with only women living in the house propriety and decorum is not such an issue.
This guy obviously doesn’t care about your feelings even though you’ve made them clear to him several times. This is your sign that he never will. He’s immature and needs to grow up a LOT, just not under the same roof as yourself. Send him packing at the first opportunity.
Like others have said it's only going to get worse. Separate yourself from him.
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