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This is an easy one. The answer should be "no." No excuses, no explanations, just a hard "NO!"
If you feel you absolutely must say something in addition to the "NO!" then tell them your father has $6000 of your money, so maybe he could help. Then tell them "NO!" again, just to make it stick.
Seriously, do not try to offer explanations or excuses. That just leaves you open to rebuttal and further manipulation. Your answer is "NO!" That's all you need to tell them.
I got an email from a distant relative out of the blue asking me for several thousand dollars a few years ago. I emailed his parents that he had written me asking for money. Never heard another word from the distant relative.
I should have probably just ignored the request and carried on with my life.
I thought by giving them an honest answer, I would give them some courtesy and they would be able to look for an alternative faster instead of relying on me.
No, they just decided to lash out. I think it's time to close this chapter. There is nothing left to salvage, it's crystal clear now and it certainly cleared all doubts and "what ifs" I had.
As others have said, cut all ties and don't reopen them. Your family is apparently hoping that you will fall into the common pattern of those who have been abused and simply capitulate for whatever they want.
This is an easy one. The answer should be "no." No excuses, no explanations, just a hard "NO!"
If you feel you absolutely must say something in addition to the "NO!" then tell them your father has $6000 of your money, so maybe he could help. Then tell them "NO!" again, just to make it stick.
Seriously, do not try to offer explanations or excuses. That just leaves you open to rebuttal and further manipulation. Your answer is "NO!" That's all you need to tell them.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. You keep NOT having contact with these people because they haven't changed at all but pretending to be spiritual and all of that but their true colors was shown to you yet again.Just because you're related to them doesn't mean that you need to have them in your life ESPECIALLY if this is how they have treated you in the past and still in the present it seems.These people will NEVER change.When someone doesn't own up to how they've treated you and just pretend that nothing ever happened....forget them for good.You will be much better for it.
I'm sad to read your family is so broken and dysfunctional. At least at a younger age you see it for what it really is. Their behavior you describe is definitely unhealthy.
Block them on social media or anywhere else other online. Change your phone number/ email if they keep persisting somehow. Cut all contact with all of them for now. You have to do what is best for you.
I've had many problems with mine over the years so I can relate to some of this to a degree. Good luck and sorry about this.
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