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Originally Posted by nobodysbusiness
Ha Ha! I love it! I was just thinking of that Woody Allen quote. It is perfect!
(And I do relate to him, as I do to Larry David!)
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I relate because I am a homebody and I have PTSD/depression, etc. I want to change but for now, it's not about friendships, but dating. I feel like any guy who would want me the way that I am right now would have to be very flawed himself, and the chances of our flaws meshing somehow are slim. That was proven with my last relationship that ended in October.
Where I can't relate to you is with your other friend. She's a good friend! IDK why you want to toss her while you search for your soulmate friend. It doesn't take much time to maintain with her. It's not like dating like you're tying yourself up and won't be able to find the soulmate type.
You need a good counselor. I talked to mine today and got so much clarity on several things. I wish I could talk to him everyday, he's that good.
My bestie doesn't 'do' emotional stuff, so I have this guy! And he's looking into more help for me.
Honestly, I don't think the chances of finding a friend to fill your void are very high. I think you have to do a lot of that part on your own/with a counselor. Most people who aren't paid to do it can't take that sort of thing in - other people's emotions. Their minds are full with their own stuff.