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Two hours or so isn't going to kill you. This is your fault and I agree with the poster cdnirene it will be rude for you to back out now.
If this were me there is zero chance I would have accepted in the first place. I would have thanked them for inviting me and politely declined.
This is the same as "suck it up," which is always bad advice. This is your holiday; spend it the way you want.
I wouldn't want to be surrounded by screaming kids who aren't related to me, or semi-strangers who will either ignore or "pity" you. Ewww.
Have a YOU Christmas!
This is the same as "suck it up," which is always bad advice. This is your holiday; spend it the way you want.
I wouldn't want to be surrounded by screaming kids who aren't related to me, or semi-strangers who will either ignore or "pity" you. Ewww. Have a YOU Christmas!
Except this situation is much different.
It's not bad advice to suggest to someone to keep their word but it's obvious I am more honest than you are.
Very rude to back out of plans at the last minute. It's downright selfish in my eyes.
OP - Keep the peace with the co-worker as you accepted the invitation and go. It's not like you are required to spend 3-5 hours there...
I'm basically an adult orphan (minus any living relatives) and had stated to a co-worker that I would be home alone on Christmas. I was invited to attend their family gathering and accepted, but am not really in the frame of mind of wanting to go and not really into large gatherings with lots of kids either. I've grappled with ways to back out but can't think of anything compelling enough. I want to tell the truth that I'd be happier at this point with a quiet day at home, but don't want to hurt feelings. It's not like they'll "miss me" ....but don't want to seem ungrateful, which I'm not. Ideas?
There is another alternative, go but don't feel you have to stay all day or anything. Maybe just go for a drink or two. That way no one gets hurt. When you've had enough just tell them you're kinda beat and be gracious for the dinner or drinks or time spent there. You never know, you might find once you get there you're actually having a better time than you thought you would. That happens too. Play it by ear.
It's not bad advice to suggest to someone to keep their word but it"s obvious I am more honest than you are.
Very rude to back out of plans at the last minute. It's downright selfish in my eyes.
Yes, it is much different. Why should I feel obligated into going and how would declining initially be any different than today a few hours beforehand? The occasion isn't centered around me and not going won't impact the preparation quantity of what is served. Two people at the event know me and the remaining 10-12 have never met me. Explaining from my perspective should clear it up for anyone with the ability to imagine being in someone else's shoes.
Yes, it is much different. Why should I feel obligated into going and how would declining initially be any different than today a few hours beforehand? The occasion isn't centered around me and not going won't impact the preparation quantity of what is served. Two people at the event know me and the remaining 10-12 have never met me. Explaining from my perspective should clear it up for anyone with the ability to imagine being in someone else's shoes.
I just added a line to my post.
It puzzles me why you started this topic in the first place.
It seems you already have your mind made up to back out. You have free will. Just do whatever...
Never tell anyone you will be alone on Christmas or Thanksgiving...... You will end up invited, or if not, chances are they will think you are fishing for an invitation.
Never tell anyone you will be alone on Christmas or Thanksgiving...... You will end up invited, or if not, chances are they will think you are fishing for an invitation.
And in the end it would appear the moral of the story, thank you!
Never tell anyone you will be alone on Christmas or Thanksgiving...... You will end up invited, or if not, chances are they will think you are fishing for an invitation.
If asked I tell the truth.
Invite me and I would state a polite and firm no thank you. If pressed I would mention this is a family type of holiday and I would feel awkward. I would not feed into it any further.
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