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You're exact feelings don't matter, for example, a tiny bit miffed, very much miffed, disappointed, etc. What matters is how you interact with them next.
There's a positive solution to this in addition to not being miffed about this situation. Invite these people yourself to another event and, see if they reciprocate (and if they don't, you will probably know why or have an understanding of why they don't and won't have to question it) and feel out your relationships with these people for the next 3-6 months+ or so. You will probably have your answer if these people continue to be true (enough) friends with you and what level you are at with them over time.
If I unexpectedly learned that a good friend was alone for NYE, and I was going to a very small (2 other couples...all good friends who socialize a lot), very casual get-together, I would 100% invite that friend. Not a question about it.
I do think it probably didn't compute that my wife and I wouldn't be together for the holiday and that we'd both still be out of town. But obviously the one friend that called DID know.
I understand your hurt feelings, but maybe they just forgot to call you? I've done that before and felt terrible about it. If they're such close friends why didn't you feel comfortable enough to call them and ask if you could join and what could you bring? Heck, my close friends don't call, my house is open to them anytime they show up. They even invite their friends to gatherings which I'm fine with.
Next time don't assume that people won't accidentally forget about you. I would have called your good friend and said, hey last minute plans, I'm in town do you want to do anything for New Years Eve? I'm sure they would have said come on over. Don't be upset, I'm sure it was just an oversight.
You said in your first post "he assumed I wasn't home yet". In the days of cell phones, calling people doesn't mean we think they are at home. It sounds like your intent all along was to stay home by yourself. Did you assume they had the same plans? I think it was on you to contact them when you returned on the 30th. You can't expect others to know the nuances of your travel plans.
You said in your first post "he assumed I wasn't home yet". In the days of cell phones, calling people doesn't mean we think they are at home. It sounds like your intent all along was to stay home by yourself. Did you assume they had the same plans? I think it was on you to contact them when you returned on the 30th. You can't expect others to know the nuances of your travel plans.
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