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Due to circumstances, my wife and I had separate travel plans this holiday season whereby we spent NYE (and day) apart. Overall...no biggie, we're not really super into that holiday.
I landed back home late on the 30th.
Mid-morning on the 31st, I got a call from one of our best friends (couples) asking about borrowing something as he assumed I wasn't home yet. I told him I was, and that I'd be home if they wanted to pop by to borrow it. He said they would on their way to another couple's (also one of our best friends) home for a mellow NYE get-together. I thought I'd get an invite, either then or later. No.
All three of us (couples) are truly good friends, and I do believe that if we weren't travelling at all this holiday season we would have been invited. No question about it.
This was not a formal party by any means whatsoever. Was 3 couples incl kids. Extremely casual.
I am 100% against inviting myself to anything, so I didn't in this case. When I told my wife that night she thought they may have been confused about our travel plans.
I think it's entirely possible that your friends knew your wife's travel plans and, for whatever reason, failed to clue in to the fact that you'd be back early. Or, it's also possible that, while both couples like you a lot, they just wanted to enjoy each other's company on this particular evening. I wouldn't read anything more into it than that, and I wouldn't be upset about it.
Due to circumstances, my wife and I had separate travel plans this holiday season whereby we spent NYE (and day) apart. Overall...no biggie, we're not really super into that holiday.
I landed back home late on the 30th.
Mid-morning on the 31st, I got a call from one of our best friends (couples) asking about borrowing something as he assumed I wasn't home yet. I told him I was, and that I'd be home if they wanted to pop by to borrow it. He said they would on their way to another couple's (also one of our best friends) home for a mellow NYE get-together. I thought I'd get an invite, either then or later. No.
All three of us (couples) are truly good friends, and I do believe that if we weren't travelling at all this holiday season we would have been invited. No question about it.
This was not a formal party by any means whatsoever. Was 3 couples incl kids. Extremely casual.
I am 100% against inviting myself to anything, so I didn't in this case. When I told my wife that night she thought they may have been confused about our travel plans.
I feel a little miffed, would anyone else?
Your friends may have already set plans for the guests they did have. Food, etc. No, I wouldn't be miffed at all.
Do you believe they are shunning you for some reason? Or that they are just bad people? Honestly, what is the theory supporting your hurt feelings?
Theory?
If I unexpectedly learned that a good friend was alone for NYE, and I was going to a very small (2 other couples...all good friends who socialize a lot), very casual get-together, I would 100% invite that friend. Not a question about it.
I do think it probably didn't compute that my wife and I wouldn't be together for the holiday and that we'd both still be out of town. But obviously the one friend that called DID know.
If I unexpectedly learned that a good friend was alone for NYE, and I was going to a very small (2 other couples...all good friends who socialize a lot), very casual get-together, I would 100% invite that friend. Not a question about it.
I do think it probably didn't compute that my wife and I wouldn't be together for the holiday and that we'd both still be out of town. But obviously the one friend that called DID know.
He told you he was "on his way" to the party. Is there a chance they were in the car already, and it just didn't occur to him???
Maybe he just doesn't think very fast on his feet. Even if I knew you were home, I would have thought you'd be too tired from traveling to come to the party.
Yes, he could have at least asked, but who here really knows why he didn't?
It wasn't his house and he didn't feel comfortable inviting you because of that most likely.
AND since it wasn't a big deal at all, he probably didn't even think about it for more than a few seconds, and that's it.
I wouldn't even give it another thought.
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