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My current relationship makes me super happy..........my relationship with my ex husband made me miserable. BUT....IMO you have to be happy with yourself 1st so that you can be happy with somebody else.....or leave if you aren't happy.
Of course relationships make for happiness. In other words, relationships are the key to happiness. Of course this means positive relationships, not negative ones. Granted at different times in our lives we have different social needs but the vast majority of people need some type of relationship at some time to be happy in their lives. I think hardly anyone can be happy being alone forever. I can see for a period of time being alone and being happy, but not forever.
I think hardly anyone can be happy being alone forever. I can see for a period of time being alone and being happy, but not forever.
Where do I sign up as a test case? I regularly dream of being the last person left alive on the planet after some cataclysmic event so I can get a bit of peace at last.
Where do I sign up as a test case? I regularly dream of being the last person left alive on the planet after some cataclysmic event so I can get a bit of peace at last.
Haha, not sure if you know what I mean though. What I mean is someone who goes through life NEVER having any kind of significant relationship, whether that be romantic or friendship. I'm talking about someone who just basically does everything alone, for their whole life. That would be literally unbearable to me. And I'm pretty introverted myself. I don't need a lot of human interaction, but I do need some. I'm not talking about someone who's had past relationships and now wishes to be alone for the rest of their lives. Unless you're telling me you're one of those people I describe. Then all I can say is you're one of the very few that can be happy like that, IMO, and more power to you.
I had a hugely overprotective childhood with virtually no privacy or solitude. Now I cling to every precious second of alone time I can get and try to make the most of it. Lonely? Sure, at times, but I'd rather put up with that than be constantly exasperated or have to walk on eggshells to please or at least not upset people.
There may well be a 'right person' somewhere out in the big, bad world who can encourage me to change my hermit-like ways. For their sake and mine, I hope I don't meet them.
Where do I sign up as a test case? I regularly dream of being the last person left alive on the planet after some cataclysmic event so I can get a bit of peace at last.
Well, your peace will last until you get a tooth infection or need surgery.
Your post reminds me of “The Bookworm” episode of Twilight Zone, where Burgess Meredith only wants to be left alone to read. He survives an atomic blast that destroys everyone (he was in the vault at the bank where he works lol). Walking over the rubble, he discovers that the books in the NYC public library have all survived intact. He is thrilled at the prospect of a life with books and no people!! Then he accidentally breaks his glasses....
I had a hugely overprotective childhood with virtually no privacy or solitude. Now I cling to every precious second of alone time I can get and try to make the most of it. Lonely? Sure, at times, but I'd rather put up with that than be constantly exasperated or have to walk on eggshells to please or at least not upset people.
There may well be a 'right person' somewhere out in the big, bad world who can encourage me to change my hermit-like ways. For their sake and mine, I hope I don't meet them.
Or you might find someone that accepts you for how you are. I’m very solitary person living with a social butterfly, and it works out well. I get both alone time and a partner. Even when we are home together, he can tell when I need space and will go play video games or watch tv in the bedroom for awhile. No one should try to change you but let be you for who you are.
I think there is a gradient. Being in a happy relationship is better than being alone, and being alone is better than being in a bad relationship. It goes both romantically and non romantically. I'm pretty sure that people who have a great family that they get along with a happier than the ones who don't, but its also better not to be around your family and spend holidays alone if your family is really awful and abusive to you. The same with friendships, sometimes it's better to let things go than to tolerate a horrible friend. But in the ideal world yes, I believe that people who have a great partner, friends and family that they get along with are the happiest people
Well, your peace will last until you get a tooth infection or need surgery.
Your post reminds me of “The Bookworm” episode of Twilight Zone, where Burgess Meredith only wants to be left alone to read. He survives an atomic blast that destroys everyone (he was in the vault at the bank where he works lol). Walking over the rubble, he discovers that the books in the NYC public library have all survived intact. He is thrilled at the prospect of a life with books and no people!! Then he accidentally breaks his glasses....
I adore that episode, and I have a spare pair of glasses for just such an emergency. The apocalypse is already twenty years late and I am not a patient man.
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