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When you call her "biological mother" that implies there is an adoptive mother.
I have never heard a mother called that outside of an adoption situation, to distinguish an absent and present mother figure. Do you consider yourself to be her alternative mother?
When you call her "biological mother" that implies there is an adoptive mother.
I have never heard a mother called that outside of an adoption situation, to distinguish an absent and present mother figure. Do you consider yourself to be her alternative mother?
BM=Biological Mother and I am SM=Step Mother (although I've never put myself in that role!) Just like she is SD=Step Daughter and not D=Daughter. All acronyms from another forum I'm on that deals with step families.
BM=Biological Mother and I am SM=Step Mother (although I've never put myself in that role!) Just like she is SD=Step Daughter and not D=Daughter. All acronyms from another forum I'm on that deals with step families.
Why dont you just change your number and sit your husband down and tell him you hate his daughter and never intend to try and have any sort of constructive relationship with her. That youve never liked her and would prefer she not be around at all to get in the way of your otherwise perfectly wonderful marriage?
Who the heck are the adults here because i havent heard a single thing about an adult just a bunch of overgrown children being petty and trying to exact revenge. This young womans MOTHER is trying to get something extremely important and sentimental to her daughter back. You clearly have some deep seeded feelings about his ex wife too. No one is acting maturely in this scenario and i am flabbergasted that supposed adults go around plotting revenge on 22 year old step children.
They may not be your monkeys but this is definitely your circus and youre all acting like clowns.
Why dont you just change your number and sit your husband down and tell him you hate his daughter and never intend to try and have any sort of constructive relationship with her. That youve never liked her and would prefer she not be around at all to get in the way of your otherwise perfectly wonderful marriage?
Who the heck are the adults here because i havent heard a single thing about an adult just a bunch of overgrown children being petty and trying to exact revenge. This young womans MOTHER is trying to get something extremely important and sentimental to her daughter back. You clearly have some deep seeded feelings about his ex wife too. No one is acting maturely in this scenario and i am flabbergasted that supposed adults go around plotting revenge on 22 year old step children.
They may not be your monkeys but this is definitely your circus and youre all acting like clowns.
Oh he knows I dislike her and I hate having her around. It's no secret, yet he tells me all the time to "try" with her. Yet she blows up at him and he decides that he's no longer going to try and write her off because he can't get thru to her. I knew when this trip was being planned 8 months ago that it was going to be a disaster having her come with us because they can barely spend a weekend together without one of them getting irritated at the other. Oh no, he kept telling me it will be fine and she'll have a blast. And gee, look what happened! Oh he told me over and over the day after that he should have listened to me. Yup, sure should have!
Oh he knows I dislike her and I hate having her around. It's no secret, yet he tells me all the time to "try" with her. Yet she blows up at him and he decides that he's no longer going to try and write her off because he can't get thru to her. I knew when this trip was being planned 8 months ago that it was going to be a disaster having her come with us because they can barely spend a weekend together without one of them getting irritated at the other. Oh no, he kept telling me it will be fine and she'll have a blast. And gee, look what happened! Oh he told me over and over the day after that he should have listened to me. Yup, sure should have!
As a step parent and the child of a wicked step mother...i am so sad. My stepchildren are my children. I stay out of things out of respect for their mother and father but i love them as much as i could love anyone. They go through phases where they are almost impossible to deal with but i would never dream of giving up on them and i would NEVER encourage my husband to give up on his child. So sad.
As a step parent and the child of a wicked step mother...i am so sad. My stepchildren are my children. I stay out of things out of respect for their mother and father but i love them as much as i could love anyone. They go through phases where they are almost impossible to deal with but i would never dream of giving up on them and i would NEVER encourage my husband to give up on his child. So sad.
This OP makes me sad also. My daughter suffers from a stepmother who does everything she can to keep my daughter away from her father. She is a deeply insecure, jealous woman who has to pretend that her husband had no life before meeting her. So she is always fanning the flames of discontent.
And yes, I am disappointed in her dad for putting up with this nonsense. He does find ways to spend time with our daughter but has to lie about it to his wife. He's scared of her.
This OP makes me sad also. My daughter suffers from a stepmother who does everything she can to keep my daughter away from her father. She is a deeply insecure, jealous woman who has to pretend that her husband had no life before meeting her. So she is always fanning the flames of discontent.
And yes, I am disappointed in her dad for putting up with this nonsense. He does find ways to spend time with our daughter but has to lie about it to his wife. He's scared of her.
Thats how my own stepmother was when i was a child. My father is recently divorced but its a long road back to a relationship that she ruined. But really its his fault...he let her. I wouldnt ever wish that on another child
As a step parent and the child of a wicked step mother...i am so sad. My stepchildren are my children. I stay out of things out of respect for their mother and father but i love them as much as i could love anyone. They go through phases where they are almost impossible to deal with but i would never dream of giving up on them and i would NEVER encourage my husband to give up on his child. So sad.
I have never ONCE encouraged him to give up on her! He is the one that made that decision.
This OP makes me sad also. My daughter suffers from a stepmother who does everything she can to keep my daughter away from her father. She is a deeply insecure, jealous woman who has to pretend that her husband had no life before meeting her. So she is always fanning the flames of discontent.
And yes, I am disappointed in her dad for putting up with this nonsense. He does find ways to spend time with our daughter but has to lie about it to his wife. He's scared of her.
I don't do one thing to keep him away from her. He has her up, he goes to visit her and I never say one thing about it, but he knows I don't enjoy hanging out with her. When conversation turns to her I'll go "mm hmm" or "ok" but nothing more than that.
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