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My bf is having outpatient surgery in a few weeks so I planned on staying with him for several days and he’s required to take a corona virus test (both types). Assuming he’s negative do I tell her so she backs off a bit maybe?
If she is that concerned about exposing you to germs or disease, why is she travelling with her fiancee to come and visit? You are a grown woman -- tell her to butt out of your social life. You need to tell your daughter not to come over if the sight of your significant other is going to cause problems.
My bf is having outpatient surgery in a few weeks so I planned on staying with him for several days and he’s required to take a corona virus test (both types). Assuming he’s negative do I tell her so she backs off a bit maybe?
Sounds as if your personal boundaries with this daughter need adjusting. Tell her to back off more than "a bit". Both of you are independent adults and can make your own decisions for better or worse. Especially in your social life. That's not her business. You do not need her approval. Tell her you appreciate her concern but that you will do what you feel is best for you. However, part of the problem is you...the more details you give her about your life the more ammunition she'll have. You need to back off somewhat too. Don't confide so much.
How hard is it to say, "Daughter, I really appreciate your good intentions here, but I'm a grown woman who is exercising reasonable caution. Do you mind backing off"?
Maybe stop telling your daughter the details of your life.
How were you able to see that your daughter was visiting a friend, when she lives so far away?
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OP, it might be awkward to have your bf there while your daughter is visiting, and if you haven't seen her in a while, you might have more quality time with her if he's elsewhere.
But regarding you seeing him, that's none of her concern. You're a grown woman and I'd question why she isn't happy that you're not alone and are happy.
And I agree with Sassy - stop sharing personal information with her.
Tell her that you will not be changing your patterns for her. If she chooses to come she will adjust to you including your visits with your male friend.
If the OP’s daughter has a depressed immune system, maybe it is not time for her to be visiting the OP or making demands on the OP as to what she does in her own time. She needs to accept that the OP is going to do what she is going to do, including seeing her boyfriend, going to the grocery store, etc.
My bf is having outpatient surgery in a few weeks so I planned on staying with him for several days and he’s required to take a corona virus test (both types). Assuming he’s negative do I tell her so she backs off a bit maybe?
You're the mom! You should know the answer to these questions. Be the mom.
No wonder she's controlling of your life. (Though it's hard to see how, since she lives nowhere near you.) You don't seem able to run your own life and make your own decisions, so she steps in.
If you don't want her running your life, be the grown-up in the equation, so she doesn't have to. Step up to the plate of your own life.
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