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Originally Posted by MPowering1
I would be very apprehensive to go into business with this guy. He's already showing you how controlling he is. Go into business with him and in order to maintain his favor, he'll likely make more demands.
And to turn your back on your family name just to gain something would be hurtful to your family I would think.
In my world, this would be a hard no.
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Originally Posted by oh-eve
he is not asking for it because he is controlling. It is for the business. He is not an ahole because he gives a not blood related person his whole company. And OP will have a great life for himself and his wife. I find that a great opportunity and would not hesitate much with the name change.
Not controlling my . I wouldn’t hesitate to change my name under other circumstances but I would definitely not give in to this dude and draw the line in the sand on his BS.
Then, go for it! It sounds like you didn't really need us; you only needed to check with your dad. Congrats, OP!
I didn't suppose my family is so indulgent on my surname change. I don't worry now. I must confess I feel some kind of excitement. I wonder how long until I'll get used to my new surname.
I didn't suppose my family is so indulgent on my surname change. I don't worry now. I must confess I feel some kind of excitement. I wonder how long until I'll get used to my new surname.
Thanks for the answers.
It sounds like talking to your Dad cleared the way. If you are excited, you must feel like it is the right decision.
Thanks for your support. I have a wedding next Saturday. I will tell you how I feel with my new surname. It's nice to do something in an unconventional way.
Thanks for your support. I have a wedding next Saturday. I will tell you how I feel with my new surname. It's nice to do something in an unconventional way.
Best of luck to you OP and congratulations on your marriage!
Are some of you so ignorant to mores and norms that are ingrained in people and society that you cannot grasp why families might have a problem with a male changing his name when they have no problem with a female changing hers?
This is what I find to be so amusing, yet kind of sad at the same time. Are people nowadays so unmoored from their cultural underpinnings that they can't even understand why things have been done for so long? When a man and a woman get married, they become "one flesh" (according to the Bible). They become a single family unit. And one of the things that distinguishes a family unit is a shared name. As for why it's the woman who changes her name, the answer is simple: because the male is the head of the household.
Now, I know that lots of people don't agree with that view. And that's fine, it's not mandatory to do it this way. All I'm saying is, this is the reason why women traditionally took their husband's last name. Whether you agree with it or not, is it really all that difficult to understand it? If the OP, or anyone else, wants to do it differently, so be it.
OP, how much is this "deal" worth? I'd gladly change my surname to "Gates" if Bill came knocking for the right price
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. I wouldn’t hesitate to change my name under other circumstances but I would definitely not give in to this dude and draw the line in the sand on his BS.
