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If you don't want to listen to "Negative" people then stop communicating with them, period. If you feel like someone is negative or draining and/or you don't have the time or patience to listen you probably don't even like them in the first place.
Personal vent: A lot of people that designate others as "Negative" do a lot complaining/venting themselves, it's o.k. for them to do it, but not you.
I work with negative/not-so-nice people and avoid them when I can and work with them in a professional way when I need to deal with them. Otherwise, I stay to myself.
A: Throw up my buffer shields. If I know it is coming, I put up a buffer shield so their negativity doesn't touch my core. On the massively intense side of it, I increase my aura but usually, that is not required and that is fortunate for that take a lot of concentration, energy, and can be rather tiring. No, usually the buffer shield works and I guess I am just stopping their words from getting inside of me.
B: Take a side parallel approach, a line that sounds like it agrees with them but addresses something quite different.
C: Take them out!........No, it's not really that but the two most negative people in my workplace did retire.
But.....you know what they say......"Keep the conversation light, don't bring up religion.".
I feel like some people have had difficult lives which is maybe why they are negative. I try to empathize with them if I know it's because their life has been rough.
Most of the negative people I encounter are at work so I avoid them. If they need to communicate with me for work related purposes, I keep it professional and brief. No chit chat, no sharing of how my day is going, nothing. Sounds rude but it sets the tone and they know not to hang around because I'm not trying to become their BFF.
I also have a few relatives who are negative so I avoid them too. They are quick to criticize and I don't need to hear it so I don't socialize with them either. I've reached a time in my life where I try to cut out negativity and try to find peace. Life is too short to deal with those types of people.
Most negative people I encounter are not negative to me or critical or me or my family...they are mostly negative about themselves, their lives or things going on in the world.
If the person is being negative about other people, my support is very superficial. If the negativity is about me, I listen and try to separate feelings from observations. If something needs to be taken care of and it was my responsibility to take care of it, I take care of it.
What I often try to evaluate is whether or not the person tends to see the worst in others. You will never please these people unless they get exactly what they want which is impossible. So don't take it personally.
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