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My husband has a male friend who has a provider/caretaker come to his place 5 days a week to assist him with what he cannot do since he qualifies for one due to his medical issues.
The provider is employed by a home health agency.
Whenever my husband goes to his male friend’s place while the provider/caretaker is there, he will say hi to his male friend, and then the provider will say “Aren’t you going to say hi to me too?”
According to my husband, he will say hi to the provider after saying hi to his male friend.
Recently his male friend told me that his provider does not like it when my husband says hi to him first and then to the provider. He also told me that his provider gets offended when my husband does that. According to him his provider is sensitive about that. The 3 of us had a conversation regarding that, and he told both of us that my husband needs to say he to the provider first and then to him whenever he comes to his place whenever the provider is working there so his provider will not get offended.
That the provider is a PITA. Just to clarify, your husband doesn’t ignore the provider—he just greets his friend first? If that’s the case, yeah, the provider doesn’t understand his/her position in the social hierarchy in this situation.
That said, if it’s important to the friend that things go smoothly with this provider, I’d probably acquiesce. Or I’d limit my visits to times the provider isn’t there.
The provider in a business/professional situation. This is not a social situation. The provider is out of line and needs to just be quiet.
However, if the provider is really that essential to have (if it would be a pain to get a replacement), your husband should just use the word "Y'ALL", and thus say hello to everyone at the same time, with two words: "Hi y'all!"
That the provider is a PITA. Just to clarify, your husband doesn’t ignore the provider—he just greets his friend first? If that’s the case, yeah, the provider doesn’t understand his/her position in the social hierarchy in this situation.
That said, if it’s important to the friend that things go smoothly with this provider, I’d probably acquiesce. Or I’d limit my visits to times the provider isn’t there.
The provider in a business/professional situation. This is not a social situation. The provider is out of line and needs to just be quiet.
However, if the provider is really that essential to have (if it would be a pain to get a replacement), your husband should just use the word "Y'ALL", and thus say hello to everyone at the same time, with two words: "Hi y'all!"
I was also wondering from an employment standpoint
Your husband could explain to the provider, that he always greets the homeowner first in any situation, because he (or she) is the host. This is proper etiquette, he could add for further clarification, and then assert that he has no intention of being rude to his friend and long-time neighbor. He could assure the caregiver, that if f he were to visit her in her home, he would say hello to her before greeting anyone else.
That should be enough to take care of the situation.
My husband has a male friend who has a provider/caretaker come to his place 5 days a week to assist him with what he cannot do since he qualifies for one due to his medical issues.
The provider is employed by a home health agency.
Whenever my husband goes to his male friend’s place while the provider/caretaker is there, he will say hi to his male friend, and then the provider will say “Aren’t you going to say hi to me too?”
According to my husband, he will say hi to the provider after saying hi to his male friend.
Recently his male friend told me that his provider does not like it when my husband says hi to him first and then to the provider. He also told me that his provider gets offended when my husband does that. According to him his provider is sensitive about that. The 3 of us had a conversation regarding that, and he told both of us that my husband needs to say he to the provider first and then to him whenever he comes to his place whenever the provider is working there so his provider will not get offended.
What is your take on this?
He’s hired help.... hired to help, not chat with company. Why would you say hello to him first.. it’s not his house.
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