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Should I still be friends with my former best friend Rolando.
Lately he has become somebody I don't like and I'm starting to feel that I shouldn't be friends with him anymore but Rolando really takes alot of pride in our friendship.
Lately Rolando has gotten awfully caught up in his karokee performances and he seems to care more about his karokee performances over his friends and whenever his friends aren't interested in watching him perform on the karokee machine at the bars and the casinos he wouldn't take no for an answer and he would persuade them to come watch him perform and one time when me, Rolando and another friend of his went to the casino together Rolando went totally ape**** over me and his friend dining at the cafeteria when he wanted us to eat in the karokee room and he totally took it the wrong way, I've felt hurt and disrespected by the way Rolando took it when me and his friend were dining in the cafeteria cause I didn't want to stay in the karokee room and neither did his friend, unfortunately the guy who went with us to the karokee room is no longer friends with Rolando.
Plus Rolando always acts like that things should go his way and no other way and he always complains over the little things in life and he seems to show no regards for his friends whenever they don't wanna do something what he wants them to do, he makes a big deal out of other people's flaws, there were a couple times when Rolando lost control of his anger to where he actually grabbed me by the throat and started choking me! I think Rolando has some anger issues and he is very inconfident and immature and he gets really grabby towards people.
Do you think that I should still be friends with Rolando or not, he used to be my best friend but ever since he has gotten caught up on his karokee performances I'm starting not to like him anymore, I've had found other friends and I'm starting to become more similar to them and I personally enjoy getting together with them than I do with Rolando.
Lately he has become somebody I don't like and I'm starting to feel that I shouldn't be friends with him anymore...
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Originally Posted by Mopac1980
I've had found other friends and I'm starting to become more similar to them and I personally enjoy getting together with them than I do with Rolando.
Mopac... I think you answered your own questions by the lines I quoted from you above. And, in my opinion solely based on the facts as you presented him, probably need to bring in a little space and time between you and him.
That said, though, if you really are friends, I think you owe it to him to take him aside (not in a karaoke bar) and tell him just why you are taking this break from your friendship. Then you may find the time and space to sort this out and determine for yourself what you want.
...he used to be my best friend but ever since he has gotten caught up on his karokee performances I'm starting not to like him anymore...
That would do it alright.
What about Megan and Bill, do they still like him?
Maybe you can be friends with that obnoxious guy at the bowling alley, unless of course he likes Karaoke, then you can look up that guy from Applebee's.
What about Megan and Bill, do they still like him?
Maybe you can be friends with that obnoxious guy at the bowling alley, unless of course he likes Karaoke, then you can look up that guy from Applebee's.
Bill is no longer friends with Rolando, I did see Megan about a month ago and fortunately we're on good terms again, Rolando is still obsessed with karokee.
Fortunately I've had found other friends and I plan on getting together with them at the bowling alley this coming Thursday night, ever since I've started becoming friends with them me and Rolando were starting to grow apart from each other.
Forget about Rolando.. he is self obsessed.. that relationship will go no where..
It's really unfortunate when a close friend of yours becomes self obsessed and a control freak isn't it? I did owe alot to him for even wanting to be friends with me cause when we first became friends I didn't have any other friends.
It is natural to grow and change, and people often go in different directions. It sounds like you are being honest about your feelings, and it is important to be true to yourself. Trust your gut. Hang out with the people you enjoy, and everyone will be happier.
thats psycho!!! not the whole karaoke thing, but the laying of hands on me in a not so brotherly fashion. anyone that seeks to physically harm me is no friend. what do you need to see that this guy is not right in the head.
an obsession with karaoke (himself really)
physical abuse
obnoxious
enough said really. there is no need to be friends. and if they ask why, tell them you have different tastes and you are not that big of a fan of karaoke and that you dont like when people bully you around.
thats psycho!!! not the whole karaoke thing, but the laying of hands on me in a not so brotherly fashion. anyone that seeks to physically harm me is no friend. what do you need to see that this guy is not right in the head.
an obsession with karaoke (himself really)
physical abuse
obnoxious
enough said really. there is no need to be friends. and if they ask why, tell them you have different tastes and you are not that big of a fan of karaoke and that you dont like when people bully you around.
simple as that.
The only reason why I even became friends with that person in the first place is because my mother has known that we used to work together and we were like buddies at our old job and she thought that me and him would become good friends and plus at the time I didn't have any other friends, when we first did become friends we were pretty much on the same path but over the years we started having alot less things in common and we were starting to grow apart from one another.
Also I can see why my brother doesn't want to associate with Rolando and he thinks that Rolando also has some serious issues.
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