That is a very sweet story. My children (both adopted from Russia) will be given the information to contact their birthmothers when and if they would like to try to locate them. All Russians carry internal passports, so locating Russian citizens is generally fairly easy and I have that information now.
The only thing that took me aback about this story is Breitbart TV's use of the term "real parents" in their written blurb below the video. Yes, his biological parents raised him until he was two, but his adoptive parents are the ones who did the vast majority of the parenting. I'm generally not a PC kind of person (i.e., I'm not usually sensitive about how things are worded,) but this topic affects me directly. My husband and I absolutely feel like the "real" parents to our two children, though we didn't give birth to them. Occasionally people will ask me, "What happened to their real parents?" and I will always ask, "Do you mean their biological parents or do you mean my husband and me?" And, unless there's a reason for them to know, that information is private and I do not divulge it (in the real world.)
By the way, John1960, I'm not blaming you for writing 'real parents.' I see the terminology came from the blurb when you click on the link.
It IS a very, very poignant story.
Finally, I did send a letter to the editors of Breitbart and gave them a link (
http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/pdf/...veLanguage.pdf) showing them positive adoption language vs negative adoption language. 'Real parent' is the #1 term listed as 'negative adoption language.' For anybody who thinks I'm going overboard, this affects not only birth and adoptive parents, but especially the children of adoption. We want our children to grow up with a positive sense of self for who they are, where they come from, and who their family is. Raising kids is hard enough, but those of us with adoptive kids have an extra layer of potential issues to deal with. We're just trying to smooth the way for our wonderful kids and make life a little less difficult.
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