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When my mother died in August 2022, I got her perfectly cut, slightly more than a half karat diamond engagement ring. My oldest son had gotten engaged in November of 2021 with a beautiful blue sapphire ring. He was my mom's favorite so I asked him if he wanted it to give it to his fiance as her engagement ring. He said that he had hoped that his grandmother would offer it to him when he first decided that he wanted to propose, but she did not make that offer. Nothing I can do about that now. So I offered it up to him but my son's fiance (now wife) said that she wants her sapphire ring as her engagement ring. So I have held on to it since then.
I would really like to pass it on for one of my sons to propose with. I have two other sons. I am thinking of offerring it to the next in line son for when/if he decides to propose. But I am feeling very conflicted. I'm not sure what the right thing to do here is. Should I give it to my oldest son and let him do with it what he wants since his, now wife, already has an engagement ring or should I offer it to the next in line son? I'd like it to be important to someone. I have my grandmother's diamond wedding band as well that I would like to pass on too. I'm trying to figure this out so no one has their feelings hurt.
You offered it to the oldest, and he declined.
Offer it to the next in line.... whichever of the two sons will get engaged next. He may decline it, as might the third son.
It sounds like it is important to YOU, so why not keep it and use it?
I do think such things should be used and appreciated, not stored away, so I would think about whether you want to wear it, or have the stones reset on a broach or necklace you would wear, or indeed, if your sons marry, you could offer them each a ring if they like.
The thing about giving it to sons, is if the marriage doesn't work out, she'll keep it. Good to be willing to live with that possibility before offering it.
The thing about giving it to sons, is if the marriage doesn't work out, she'll keep it.
I do think such things should be used and appreciated, not stored away, so I would think about whether you want to wear it, or have the stones reset on a broach you would wear, or indeed, if your sons marry, you could offer them each a ring if they like.
Yeah that has crossed my mind too and there is always a chance that it won't I guess. I hope that it's not the case but you never know now days. Good input!
Well, your mother had a favorite grandchild and it sounds like you might also have a favorite child. I personally find that rather reprehensible. Headshaker. That said, you'd have to ask yourself if you really care about hurting the feelings of unfavored children. If not, your decision is easy.
Are you asking because you're actually sensitive to hurting the feelings of unfavored children but you are looking for input to hopefully assuage guilt or enable what you'd prefer to do?
Well, your mother had a favorite grandchild and it sounds like you might also have a favorite child. I personally find that rather reprehensible. Headshaker. That said, you'd have to ask yourself if you really care about hurting the feelings of unfavored children. If not, your decision is easy.
Are you asking because you're actually sensitive to hurting the feelings of unfavored children but you are looking for input to hopefully assuage guilt or enable what you'd prefer to do?
No clue how you got any of that out of my post but you may have some miss-placed sensitivities.
Make the rings into a necklace or earrings. Wear and enjoy them. an engagement ring is very personal most brides want their own pick especially if the ring didn’t belong to their grandmother but an in law. A necklace or earrings has no such connection other than the diamonds were from a grandmother. There isn’t the pressure of having to wear it every day if it’s not something you love the look of.
No clue how you got any of that out of my post but you may have some miss-placed sensitivities.
Have a good day.
I agree. It was presumptuous and way off base.
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