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Old 12-25-2013, 01:54 AM
 
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That's right because everytime I see a black person they always seem to be cackling and not being able to Stop laughing!
That's not true.

I've noticed when a black person isn't smiling,they get the typical "angry black people" response.


Why must black people always have to smile to seem approachable?
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Old 12-25-2013, 03:08 AM
 
Location: Melbourne, Australia
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Yeah I'd say it's more like the last 20 years there's been a decline in general openness/friendliness/sociability, but on the other hand people are probably a bit more tolerant.
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Old 12-25-2013, 05:34 AM
 
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I can't speak for everyone else but I'm more that way than I probably would've been if I had grown up in another time.
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Old 12-25-2013, 07:55 PM
 
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That's not true.

I've noticed when a black person isn't smiling,they get the typical "angry black people" response.


Why must black people always have to smile to seem approachable?
It seems you can't win with some people. When I learned this and stop trying so hard to please and prove myself to others is when I stopped being miserable.
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Old 12-27-2013, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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I honestly couldn't tell you. Is this not a case of reminiscing about the so-called better past once again rather than looking in the mirror and realizing it's you that's changed n time?
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Old 12-27-2013, 09:14 AM
 
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Yeah I'd say it's more like the last 20 years there's been a decline in general openness/friendliness/sociability, but on the other hand people are probably a bit more tolerant.
I agree with this though a lot of the tolerance is based on social and political pressure. Maybe people are less open because they aren't sure how others will react, people are so easily offended. Lately when I have been friendly to strangers some will just give a strange look, like how dare I talk to them. So, it makes one a bit more cautious to be friendly if you might get such a negative response. I don't know why anyone would react so badly to someone saying hi or complementing them. It's a bit creepy to be honest.
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Old 12-29-2013, 12:41 AM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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Due to texting, email and. Less and less race to face or verbal communication we are becoming less social. If I wanted to ask someone a question I used to have to call. Usually ended making small talk how is the family etc. Now? Not so much. The young guys at my work want to do everything in text. I call them and make them call me on the phone
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Old 12-29-2013, 05:06 PM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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Due to texting, email and. Less and less race to face or verbal communication we are becoming less social. If I wanted to ask someone a question I used to have to call. Usually ended making small talk how is the family etc. Now? Not so much. The young guys at my work want to do everything in text. I call them and make them call me on the phone
Why would you do that when surely it's easier just to reply to the text?
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Old 12-31-2013, 01:08 PM
 
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Speaking for myself, I wouldn't say I am afraid of people, but I have definitely become more guarded and reserved over the years.

The older I get, the more I realize that most people really don't like each other. When you encounter rudeness, passive aggressive behavior, and mean-spirited gossip on almost a daily basis, it has an effect on you. One thing I see a lot of nowadays is two-faced behavior. You know, act friendly towards someone and then badmouth him as soon as he leaves the room. I don't have any respect for people who get off on putting down others, especially when they aren't around to defend themselves.

I have a couple of close friends and a couple of family members who I enjoy being around, who I know are genuinely good, decent human beings, and I focus my energy on socializing with them. The masses of shallow fakes can just go to hell.
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Old 01-01-2014, 06:57 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Most of my friends are telling me that they have noticed a huge change in the social climate in America during the last 5 years. Maybe it is linked to the post 9-11 mentality or the waves and waves of immigrants who are coming into our neighborhoods. Or maybe the effect of technology and computers.

I see less socializing on the job, less communication with the neighbors, less chatting in the grocery line, more glum looks at the post office, and silence at the hairdresser. It seems like people have lost their gift of gab and the ability to enjoy the company of stranger or coworkers. Things are more all business today.

Some people like to claim they are to busy, but I do not think this is it, instead I think it is a form of fear and a major change in our social culture in America. Anyone else agree?
I am 67 years old. I have not noticed what you "see" in your life at all. I have never known my neighbors very well though, ever. In my experience people usually keep to themselves naturally. But friendships are maintained at the workplace. Young mothers who do not work do socialize a bit with neighbors and friends. But once they go back to work, a lot of that has to go by the wayside. The culprit is probably more about time than anything else.

But I haven't noticed a trend or anything.
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