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Old 12-26-2008, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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How about just bunk buddies?
Don't know about this department. HR is on vacation.

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Yes I have some of these people in my life also. Isn't it funny how they seem to always readily have advise available for someone else. I agree with something Dr. Phil said on one of his shows. He said sometimes you just have to let negative people go. Even if it hapens to be family and friends. Don't let them pull you down. Good luck!
You know, I'm not generally the most positive person in the world, but I certainly wouldn't stick my nose in other people's pain. For instance, to this day I don't know the entire story of her relationship her kid resulted from and I don't ask. I know chances are she wouldn't feel like talking about it. If somebody tells me something, fine; if they don't, fine again. And if I haven't explicitly asked for advice (which I never do), I don't want it! Now, if I constantly cry on somebody's shoulder and ask for help... OK, maybe they have the right to say something... but I don't.

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Ah, yes frenemies...what would we do without them?

It's nice to know, that on those days when the sun is shining, the birds are singing and I'm having a good hair day....I can just reach out and call that "special someone" who will bring me crashing back down her level.
Very well said! Chances are it's not the strangers who will pi*ss you off and bring you down. The conversation with them has boundaries and it's light and bright.
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Old 12-26-2008, 02:47 PM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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I hadn't sent almost any Christmas cards this year and got an e-mail from a friend back home (I actually met her while she was living here for a few years, but that's irrelevant), so I responded and against my better judgment decided to call.

I guess she either didn't remember I got divorced or perhaps heard about it while we were only separated, but in any event she was kinda surprised by the news. Sooo, what did I hear about it...?! While other women can't find men (perhaps she meant herself - she's never been married and has a child), others like me find them and then alienate them and get rid of them ...Hello... do you have ANY clue about how any of this developed?! Why can't people shut up and mind their own business? Do I give my opinion about the reasons she doesn't find any... NO! And it's not like I don't have an opinion... I stopped calling another one who loved giving unsolicited opinions and advices.

You know what? I'm a lot happier being a hermit! Do you guys have such lovely experiences with self-appointed shrinks?
People I call friends know me. They also know better than to give unsolicited advice. However there is one friend I have, have known her for 26 years and she knows all my dirty little secrets. She remembers things I don't remember....I'll take advice from her any day... or at lease I'll listen
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Old 12-26-2008, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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People I call friends know me.
You're right. I used the term "friend" loosely.
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Old 12-26-2008, 02:55 PM
 
Location: in my imagination
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You're right. I used the term "friend" loosely.
Sierra is my friendWha' up Sierra?Merry Christmas!!!!
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Old 12-26-2008, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Sierra is my friendWha' up Sierra?Merry Christmas!!!!
Merry Christmas, LK! You seem to be too busy lately for your box of friends. I saw some mention of the new developments in your profile. Please, do tell!
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Old 12-26-2008, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Sometimes other people like to...rain on your parade, so to say.
You sound like a pretty open minded person. I`m sure that you put her back in her place, right?
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Old 12-26-2008, 03:04 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Default Therein lies a key...

.....to being a great friend.

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....I certainly wouldn't stick my nose in other people's pain.....If somebody tells me something, fine; if they don't, fine again.
Steer clear. You don't need that kind of extra weight to carry around.
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Old 12-26-2008, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I`m sure that you put her back in her place, right?
Well, if you put everybody in his place it doesn't leave too many to talk with, does it... I usually just drift away and the results of it are essentially the same... Good thing I don't mind my own company.

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Steer clear. You don't need that kind of extra weight to carry around.
I can be pretty good at beating myself down anyway and no, no extra help is needed really...
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Old 12-26-2008, 03:40 PM
 
Location: Where the sun likes to shine!!
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Sorry about that Sierra. See what happens when you try to be nice.

Put her on your "do not call" list. If she calls you and she gives her wonderful advice again just politely say "bite me".
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Old 12-26-2008, 03:45 PM
 
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I can be pretty good at beating myself down anyway and no, no extra help is needed really...
Hey now...don't be your own worst frenemy!

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that "special someone" who will bring me crashing back down her level.
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People who pull that cr@p obviously have their own issues. Try not to take it too seriously. Call/email a good friend and have a nice chuckle over the incident.


*is quoting myself like talking to myself???
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