Mother/Daughter Disagreements (children, adults, feel)

[pll]

As in the case of Candy and Tori Spelling, which should be the one to make peace when there is a break in the mother/daughter relationship? I think it should be the mom because she is older and wiser. Perhaps she should strive to be an example and a role model to her daughter. She could teach her daughter how forgiveness works. Any thoughts or experiences you would like to share?

[PassTheChocolate]

From what little I have seen, they should both be tarred and feathered. It's one thing for the tabloids to create their stories. But to willingly air out dirty laundry on TV; I'd be done. No comment.

[pll]

I agree. What about for people in general, who aren't celebs.?

[Granny Sue]

I think it depends on what started the problem in the 1st place.

Both are adults. After a certain age....ie..the Spellings.....the mother leading the daughter thing is really moot.

If I caused a rift with my mother, it would be up to me to try to make it right. If she caused it...it would be up to her.

These are grown adults.

[PassTheChocolate]

That's really a tough one. It's not that easy to say. Mom should be older and wiser but she may not be wiser, as these two you mentioned exhibit.

The one at fault should apologize, age, parent or child doesn't matter. And sometimes an apology will never be enough.

[pll]

Do you feel that sometimes moms have a hard time appologizing to their daughters?

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by pll

Do you feel that sometimes moms have a hard time appologizing to their daughters?

I'm sure it happens in all kinds of relationships, though I'd say those are some pretty challenging relationships if that is the case. I can't help but apologize to my son, or anyone, if I have done something to hurt them, even when I didn't mean it.

[pll]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

I'm sure it happens in all kinds of relationships, though I'd say those are some pretty challenging relationships if that is the case. I can't help but apologize to my son, or anyone, if I have done something to hurt them, even when I didn't mean it.

That's exactly my point. I think parents especially need to be the one to apologize first for hurting their children, even if they didn't intentionally mean too. It teaches their children humility and forgiveness. You're a good parent. I think some parents today teach their kids how to hold grudges more then how to forgive.

[Little Mizz Pittsburgh]

Originally Posted by pll

Do you feel that sometimes moms have a hard time appologizing to their daughters?

Yes. I can attest to this.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by pll

That's exactly my point. I think parents especially need to be the one to apologize first for hurting their children, even if they didn't intentionally mean too. It teaches their children humility and forgiveness. You're a good parent. I think some parents today teach their kids how to hold grudges more then how to forgive.

Certainly. In that case it's not an issue of who apologizes first; but who should apologize, period.

If life were only that simple, eh? If only people could cut through all the pride and ego and do the right thing. But nah, that would be too easy.