where is the best place to meet girls? (Stillwater, Howe: leasing, lawyers)

[Bass&Catfish2008]

Originally Posted by Atlguy39

You sound like a much younger version of me, which is good because you still have time to meet someone. I however, am 44, and am facing what you fear facing at a much older age. I've been married and have no kids. I'm starting over, and apparently picked the wrong city to do that in. That is, if I want to find a wife who doesn't already have kids. I had no choice, as my field sucks in Atlanta. Thats right, I left a vibrant city with beautiful, successful, single women to come here. But I had to. Can't date without a job, so a catch 22. So I have this great job and love my company, but am lonely as hell because I can't find available women here. As for me, waiting a few years will pretty much seal my single fate. I look youngish now and am in good shape, but it doesn't really matter if you can't find women to date.

Personally, if its an option in a couple of years, I may try to move to Dallas and work remotely. I doubt it will be an option though. But I know if I can't meet anyone here I won't be fulfilled with just a good job.

You'll be hardpressed to find women over 30-35 in Oklahoma (and Texas for that matter) without kids.

Seems to me your best bet is to seek out other transplants that have moved into OKC, Tulsa, or even Dallas within the last few years. Use the filtering/preference options on the dating sites and just go after ladies in your target age range with no kids. You're bound to find some East/West Coasters that have moved here recently that have similar interests, etc.

Good luck.

[rockyinyourradio]

Originally Posted by debzkidz

Unfortunately, those speed limits are not going to be anywhere near Dallas. Only out in desolate west Texas. Still 65-70 between Dallas and OKC.

I-35 is 75 until the Denton area, most interstates are now at least 75 in TX. and once your well west of Ft. Worth, supposedly its up to 80.

Keeping with the subject at hand.. I just went to The Mule last night at NW 16th&Blackwelder.. what a place! Lots of friendly ladies and the food was fantastic!! Beer is amazing too!

[#1soonerfan]

Originally Posted by rockyinyourradio

Keeping with the subject at hand.. I just went to The Mule last night at NW 16th&Blackwelder.. what a place! Lots of friendly ladies and the food was fantastic!! Beer is amazing too!

Love the Mule! I would go there just for the onion rings. I know its been quite successful. We actually tried to go there for lunch a few days ago and it was about an hour wait.

To tie this in the the thread, lots of young people and singles at places like the Mule, and in the Plaza District. For better or for worse, Oklahoma is a very traditional state. OKC's single scene is definitely improving thanks to the decent economy in these parts, but this place is still small and conservative enough that your success at meeting and mingling with other singles will be highly dependent on what circles you run in and where you spend your time the most.

Downtown/Midtown/Bricktown, Western Avenue, and Norman are probably the three best areas to mingle with the young and/or the singles. There's a couple of places here and there outside these three areas, but for the most part stick to these areas. And maybe its just me, but at the age of 26 and a single male myself, I can honestly say I have never really gotten "bad vibes" from people here because I'm not married. Then again, I don't live my life behind some walled in subdivision in Moore or Edmond (both nice towns, I might add!) and I frankly do not care what busybodies think about me.

Just in my circle, most people my age are not married, although an increasing number are getting engaged. But even among the married folk, we hang out and nobody cares about relationship status. I will add that I am not a native and most of the people I hang out with live in the three areas I mentioned beforehand. I will also add that most of my single friends do indeed express concern over OKC's rather family oriented culture, yet stay, focus on their careers, and make it work here regardless.

I can certainly personally attest that dating here can be tough past a certain age, but not impossible. And I'm probably drifting here, but I've learned on my short time on this planet that life is a game of give and take. You might live in an area with a great career and low COL but a terrible dating scene. You can always move to an area with a great dating scene but a ridiculously bad job market and terrible climate. You can then move to a place with a good climate but soul crushing COL. It really just depends on what goals are important to you and what you're willing to give up in order to achieve them.

If there's a place that's "perfect" and has it all it will quickly be invaded by transplants and promptly be ruined. That's why chose to live my life the way I see fit and let the chips fall where they may.

[Bass&Catfish2008]

Originally Posted by #1soonerfan

Love the Mule! I would go there just for the onion rings. I know its been quite successful. We actually tried to go there for lunch a few days ago and it was about an hour wait.

To tie this in the the thread, lots of young people and singles at places like the Mule, and in the Plaza District. For better or for worse, Oklahoma is a very traditional state. OKC's single scene is definitely improving thanks to the decent economy in these parts, but this place is still small and conservative enough that your success at meeting and mingling with other singles will be highly dependent on what circles you run in and where you spend your time the most.

Downtown/Midtown/Bricktown, Western Avenue, and Norman are probably the three best areas to mingle with the young and/or the singles. There's a couple of places here and there outside these three areas, but for the most part stick to these areas. And maybe its just me, but at the age of 26 and a single male myself, I can honestly say I have never really gotten "bad vibes" from people here because I'm not married. Then again, I don't live my life behind some walled in subdivision in Moore or Edmond (both nice towns, I might add!) and I frankly do not care what busybodies think about me.

Just in my circle, most people my age are not married, although an increasing number are getting engaged. But even among the married folk, we hang out and nobody cares about relationship status. I will add that I am not a native and most of the people I hang out with live in the three areas I mentioned beforehand. I will also add that most of my single friends do indeed express concern over OKC's rather family oriented culture, yet stay, focus on their careers, and make it work here regardless.

I can certainly personally attest that dating here can be tough past a certain age, but not impossible. And I'm probably drifting here, but I've learned on my short time on this planet that life is a game of give and take. You might live in an area with a great career and low COL but a terrible dating scene. You can always move to an area with a great dating scene but a ridiculously bad job market and terrible climate. You can then move to a place with a good climate but soul crushing COL. It really just depends on what goals are important to you and what you're willing to give up in order to achieve them.

If there's a place that's "perfect" and has it all it will quickly be invaded by transplants and promptly be ruined. That's why chose to live my life the way I see fit and let the chips fall where they may.

^^^
This is an excellent post. +1

[selou]

LOL.

I'm a lady, ... I guess I'll go hang out in these places to find guys looking for ladies. I'm wanting a husband so ........ according to the reply on this thread that provides the most comprehensive information I'm someone to "watch out" for. That sucks! what does "easy on the eyes" mean? You guys want nice, no drama, and sexy but one who allows men to look at her body without a fuss?

The best advise I can give you - start by looking at her eyes, before you look elsewhere. She'll let you know by her eyes if she thinks you're sexy. Men have this idea in mind that if they think a girl is pretty, that girl is their's to look at. Let her look over your sexy muscles before you check out her ass for a change. I get asked out on adverage about twice a day. And more often if I socialize. But I have a hard time finding men worth dating because I look for someone who's incredibly sexy and intelligent but also has good integrity. The sexy guys are jerks. The nice guys are naive or boring.

Sometimes, I see a really cute guy that I hope will talk to me but he doesn't because he's listening to headphones while working out his arms. Maybe those guys have girlfriends. But if you're single and looking for girls, I'd recommend ditching the headphones at the gym. Seems like no one knows how to create community since Facebook launched. Even at gyms, everyone is pretty self absorbed.

I like this website, if this is a website where we can talk to each other about where to socialize in what zipcodes.

[Yenisei]

I've read this entire thread and wonder if I'm screwed as a 45 year old single father of a small child. I haven't attended church regularly since I was 10 years old.

[StillwaterTownie]

Throw going to the strip in Stillwater as a place to go to at night to meet girls. Since so many OSU students aren't old enough to enter the bars there, it partly thrives off of people coming from out of town. Except for Outlaws with its huge country dance floor, most of the bars don't amount to much. But people from neighboring towns don't have anything like the strip for night time entertainment.

[StillwaterTownie]

Originally Posted by Yenisei

I've read this entire thread and wonder if I'm screwed as a 45 year old single father of a small child. I haven't attended church regularly since I was 10 years old.

Yeah, if you're afraid to try online dating services.

[StillwaterTownie]

Originally Posted by selou

LOL.

I'm a lady, ... I guess I'll go hang out in these places to find guys looking for ladies. I'm wanting a husband so ........ according to the reply on this thread that provides the most comprehensive information I'm someone to "watch out" for. That sucks! what does "easy on the eyes" mean? You guys want nice, no drama, and sexy but one who allows men to look at her body without a fuss?

The best advise I can give you - start by looking at her eyes, before you look elsewhere. She'll let you know by her eyes if she thinks you're sexy. Men have this idea in mind that if they think a girl is pretty, that girl is their's to look at. Let her look over your sexy muscles before you check out her ass for a change. I get asked out on adverage about twice a day. And more often if I socialize. But I have a hard time finding men worth dating because I look for someone who's incredibly sexy and intelligent but also has good integrity. The sexy guys are jerks. The nice guys are naive or boring.

Sometimes, I see a really cute guy that I hope will talk to me but he doesn't because he's listening to headphones while working out his arms. Maybe those guys have girlfriends. But if you're single and looking for girls, I'd recommend ditching the headphones at the gym. Seems like no one knows how to create community since Facebook launched. Even at gyms, everyone is pretty self absorbed.

I like this website, if this is a website where we can talk to each other about where to socialize in what zipcodes.

LOL, I gave up on girls long ago. I would ask them for a dance. They'd almost always say no. Girls think looks are everything. I don't have the absolutely adorable big brown puppy dog eyes they would die for. Can't make up for it by being bright, witty and charming. I'm boring. And don't have that porn star hugeness between the legs. Speaking of the eyes, it's hard to remember since one gave me a second look, but I think the last one wasn't easy on my eyes in looking back. Anyway, hot looking girls can't stop me from admiring them as long as I don't get too close. I don't care if pretty girls think guys should keep their eyes off them when they're not hot to look at in return.

[Yenisei]

Originally Posted by StillwaterTownie

Yeah, if you're afraid to try online dating services.

Thanks for the frank assessment (I haven't lived in the US for 11 years and was in a relationship for 20, so I'm pretty clueless right now). I haven't got anything against online dating sites.