Why do people in Orlando ask "Where do you stay?" instead of "Where do you live?" (neighborhood, live in)

[Crane's Rooster]

Originally Posted by annerk

Where do you stay implies that you assume someone is a tourist. I'd be rather offended if someone assumed that about me, even though I've got a pronounced Northeastern accent. (Blend of New England and NYC metro that isn't really discernible as one or the other unless you are from one or the other--in which case you'll think I'm from where you aren't. )

I've never thought about it like that as I've said it to people who I know are local. Staff at stores, offices, restaurants, etc. For instance in casual conversation with the waiter, cashier, receptionists, etc, I'll ask them "where do you stay?" Than I'll usually recommend some restaurant in that area or some random experience I had in that area. Is that unusual of me or am I just a little too friendly and forward?

[annerk]

Originally Posted by Crane's Rooster

I've never thought about it like that as I've said it to people who I know are local. Staff at stores, offices, restaurants, etc. For instance in casual conversation with the waiter, cashier, receptionists, etc, I'll ask them "where do you stay?" Than I'll usually recommend some restaurant in that area or some random experience I had in that area. Is that unusual of me or am I just a little too friendly and forward?

I think it's presumptuous of you to make recommendations to people who live in an area, especially if you don't live there. It's one thing to say, "Oh, I love XYZ Restaurant in the ABC Plaza there" but another to assume they don't know their own neighborhood. Just my opinion.

[Crane's Rooster]

Originally Posted by annerk

I think it's presumptuous of you to make recommendations to people who live in an area, especially if you don't live there. It's one thing to say, "Oh, I love XYZ Restaurant in the ABC Plaza there" but another to assume they don't know their own neighborhood. Just my opinion.

Well that's what I meant. I usually say something very similar to what you said, or "have you tried X, I love that place." I wouldn't be crass enough to tell them "you should _____ try" or something along those lines. I'm just trying to make small talk.

[annerk]

Originally Posted by Crane's Rooster

Well that's what I meant. I usually say something very similar to what you said, or "have you tried X, I love that place." I wouldn't be crass enough to tell them "you should _____ try" or something along those lines. I'm just trying to make small talk.

Gotcha.

I still think "Where do you stay" is weird and makes it sound like they are transient. I stay in hotels, I live in my home.

I tend to ask "What part of the Orlando area do you live in" That way they can answer as vaguely or specifically as they'd like to.

[Crane's Rooster]

It's funny because growing up in FL people used to say "where you from?" meaning what part of the local area are you from. Than when people started really moving here you couldn't really ask that anymore because everyone would say, NY, Boston, Minnesota, Chicago, etc.

[kyle19125]

Originally Posted by annerk

Gotcha.

I still think "Where do you stay" is weird and makes it sound like they are transient. I stay in hotels, I live in my home.

I tend to ask "What part of the Orlando area do you live in" That way they can answer as vaguely or specifically as they'd like to.

Exactly, or "stay on a couch at my cousin's house this week"....To me it originates from the same camp that uses the phrase "Where you at?".

[beckycat]

Originally Posted by kyle19125

I've never heard the "Where do you stay" phrase/question but have found typically it's used by a more urban demographic. I would guess it's more a case of who you know/where you've been situation versus an overall "Orlando thing".

^^^
Yea, what Kyle said.

[NeverBeingBoring]

When I lived in the Carolinas, "Where do you stay?" was used frequently. I never heard it anywhere up north or in FL.

[OrlFlaUsa]

Come on guys, we all know it's a slangish way of saying where do you live.

[Granny Sue]

I've been here for 30 years and have never heard that phrase.

Are we grasping at straws for something negative?