Single mother of two ...with section 8 ..moving to Orlando (to buy, living)

[justlikecandee]

Originally Posted by convextech

This is from your very first post in this thread:

"We vacation in Orlando every year and we've always wanted to live there"

"My kids are getting older and I always wanted to raise my kids in Orlando near the pools and themeparks and nice weather"

Nice try but the gig is up.

I said we vacation there every year. I didnt say where we went or how much money was spent because i KNEW people would get mad. If I wanted to rile the forum up I would've went into detail and said disney , cruises etc. I knew to not go into detail ! So what gig am i giving up ? It was another poster that said Disney. I never said Disney until it was mentioned. For all you knew we could've been vacationing cheaply at rhe fun spot or some other cheap carnival crap down there.

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by WithDisp

Her SSI and Section 8 absolutely are portable, and will follow her.

You're looking at the situation as if she has no interest in making the jump to get out of poverty. If that were the case, believe me, she'd never leave NYC- as she may not.

She's taking this interest, not to chase vacations eternally- but to have some kind of a dream to leave the slums of NYCHA.

Annerk said it best on here, she has significant problems that are going to follow her wherever she goes.
However, she is in no great condition to stay put- nor a great one to move to Orlando.

But- moving from abject poverty in NYC up to a better lifestyle is basically never going to happen.
Here, with the right attitude and work ethic- it could.

If you bother to check the OP has another thread where she states she doesn't want to work because she wants to spend time with her children. Well guess what? Plenty of single moms would love do that as well, but they go to work because they have to.

The OP would also need a car in FL, and a reliable one, so another expense.

Someone who says they don't want to work doesn't have a good work ethic IMO.

[justlikecandee]

Originally Posted by kiggy

You should use the energy you use to scam the system to educate yourself into a job. However, I'm sure you are a troll, so congrats in getting the forum revved up.

I love how this board rules say no personal attacks but that's all ive been getting.Roll your eyes all the way to the back of your head until you go blind because you cant read! How am I scamming the system? Please tell me i'd like to know because i'd go down and report myself for fraud ! Everything that we get from the system we are entitled to because we ualify for those programs . My kids are disabled so we get ssi, we lived two years in a shelter until we got section 8 housing, our income allows us to have food stamps and medicaid. We use and spend the food stamps on food. Where is the scamming? Where is the abuse? After the bills are paid I tuck away some money to take my kids on vacation. Does it suck that people work and cant afford vacation but I can ? Yes it does. That's not my fault though. Im doing what Im supposed to be doing. Taking care of my kids . It's not easy for me. I have the worst depression . You people dont understand you just judge. My therapist told me not to feel bad for using benefits my only concern should be my kids not where I get my money . As long as im not abusing or neglecting my kids than I shouldn't feel bad . We all have our struggles in life. My anxiety and depression prevents me from working...add on having two disabled kids with no reliable childcare or support...than you end up screwed if you're not mentally strong enough to handle it all. Atleast Im admitting im not strong enough and my faults. I feel awful that i can't move my kids out of nycha housing without govt assistance. Way to kick someone when they're already down.

[justlikecandee]

Originally Posted by seain dublin

If you bother to check the OP has another thread where she states she doesn't want to work because she wants to spend time with her children. Well guess what? Plenty of single moms would love do that as well, but they go to work because they have to.

The OP would also need a car in FL, and a reliable one, so another expense.

Someone who says they don't want to work doesn't have a good work ethic IMO.

It's not that I don't want to work . I tell my therapist at every session how I feel like a loser because im 30 and not working and my work history is beyond pathetic. I FEEL BAD. I dont have the energy or motivation to work . It's not there. I told her how lazy I felt and she told me it's not laziness it's depression . I cant tell you how i literally lay there feeling comatose unable to move or even get out of bed. My depression started right after I had my kids and they were diagnosed. I just lost everything. Before I had kids I had a job and I worked everyday . I walked three miles to my job everyday ,stood on my feet all day and went home . I never felt tired or lazy . After I had my kids everything went downhill. Im upset my kids wont get married or have careers . That kills me.

[brinkofsunshine]

The responses you've received shouldn't surprise you. You asked if moving to Orlando would be good for you and your children. Most posters gave their honest assessment: no. You will not find the quality of education that your kids are receiving now. Orlando and theme parks and balmy weather do not cure depression or anxiety.

[Joey Falcon]

Originally Posted by justlikecandee

It's not that I don't want to work . I tell my therapist at every session how I feel like a loser because im 30 and not working and my work history is beyond pathetic. I FEEL BAD. I dont have the energy or motivation to work . It's not there. I told her how lazy I felt and she told me it's not laziness it's depression . I cant tell you how i literally lay there feeling comatose unable to move or even get out of bed. My depression started right after I had my kids and they were diagnosed. I just lost everything. Before I had kids I had a job and I worked everyday . I walked three miles to my job everyday ,stood on my feet all day and went home . I never felt tired or lazy . After I had my kids everything went downhill. Im upset my kids wont get married or have careers . That kills me.

You've had a hard time. But maybe you should have thought about giving those kids up for adoption if you couldn't handle it.

Whatever you do, whether you move here or not, just make sure you do not get knocked up again.

[Bobdreamz]

Originally Posted by Joey Falcon

You've had a hard time. But maybe you should have thought about giving those kids up for adoption if you couldn't handle it.

Whatever you do, whether you move here or not, just make sure you do not get knocked up again.

With advice like that I'm amazed you are even in a relationship.

[rainydayparis]

Originally Posted by justlikecandee

It's not that I don't want to work . I tell my therapist at every session how I feel like a loser because im 30 and not working and my work history is beyond pathetic. I FEEL BAD. I dont have the energy or motivation to work . It's not there. I told her how lazy I felt and she told me it's not laziness it's depression . I cant tell you how i literally lay there feeling comatose unable to move or even get out of bed. My depression started right after I had my kids and they were diagnosed. I just lost everything. Before I had kids I had a job and I worked everyday . I walked three miles to my job everyday ,stood on my feet all day and went home . I never felt tired or lazy . After I had my kids everything went downhill. Im upset my kids wont get married or have careers . That kills me.

If you are so depressed than why are you continuing with this thread you started? It is very depressing. What does your therapist think of that?

You got the answers and advice you came looking for quite a few pages ago.
Enough already!

I think you should ask the moderator to close this thread.

[rainydayparis]

Originally Posted by Joey Falcon

You've had a hard time. But maybe you should have thought about giving those kids up for adoption if you couldn't handle it.

Whatever you do, whether you move here or not, just make sure you do not get knocked up again.

I agree!

Originally Posted by Bobdreamz

With advice like that I'm amazed you are even in a relationship.

Sorry Bob, but I don't see anything wrong with Joey's second piece of advice. But I am not all PC just for the sake of it.

[annerk]

Originally Posted by justlikecandee

I love how this board rules say no personal attacks but that's all ive been getting.Roll your eyes all the way to the back of your head until you go blind because you cant read! How am I scamming the system? Please tell me i'd like to know because i'd go down and report myself for fraud ! Everything that we get from the system we are entitled to because we ualify for those programs . My kids are disabled so we get ssi, we lived two years in a shelter until we got section 8 housing, our income allows us to have food stamps and medicaid. We use and spend the food stamps on food. Where is the scamming? Where is the abuse? After the bills are paid I tuck away some money to take my kids on vacation. Does it suck that people work and cant afford vacation but I can ? Yes it does. That's not my fault though. Im doing what Im supposed to be doing. Taking care of my kids . It's not easy for me. I have the worst depression . You people dont understand you just judge. My therapist told me not to feel bad for using benefits my only concern should be my kids not where I get my money . As long as im not abusing or neglecting my kids than I shouldn't feel bad . We all have our struggles in life. My anxiety and depression prevents me from working...add on having two disabled kids with no reliable childcare or support...than you end up screwed if you're not mentally strong enough to handle it all. Atleast Im admitting im not strong enough and my faults. I feel awful that i can't move my kids out of nycha housing without govt assistance. Way to kick someone when they're already down.

So when you don't have reliable childcare, how do you plan on taking classes or working? But yet you call potential employers judgemental? Am I the only one who sees the irony?