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11-30-2006, 09:23 AM
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There are a couple people I know, that annoy me to death. Now its not because of their personality for the most part. Most of the time they don't even have to say anything. Just the sight of them, annoys me. I feel bad about it, but there really isn't much that I can do about it.
Anyone else have the same feelings? Or am I just cold hearted? 
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11-30-2006, 10:08 AM
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If they are relatives or co-workers, fear not. That is a normal feeling.  |
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11-30-2006, 10:10 AM
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Location: New Jersey
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Originally Posted by poprocksncoke
There are a couple people I know, that annoy me to death. Now its not because of their personality for the most part. Most of the time they don't even have to say anything. Just the sight of them, annoys me. I feel bad about it, but there really isn't much that I can do about it.
Anyone else have the same feelings? Or am I just cold hearted?
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Yes, unfortunately, I have those same feelings, too. I don't know why, but usually I immediately form opinions about people (strangers), instantly liking them or disliking them. I do not let that influence how I treat them, though, I keep it to myself. Sometimes, if I am in contact with them (such as a new co-worker, etc.) they actually do give me a reason not to like them, but sometimes they turn out to be really good people, and I don't want to burn my bridges before they are even built!
Just try to keep an open mind. But if they are people you know, maybe they remind you of someone you have forgotten already, maybe a bad neighbor or something, you ran into when you were a kid...? |
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11-30-2006, 10:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Fox Terrier
Yes, unfortunately, I have those same feelings, too. I don't know why, but usually I immediately form opinions about people (strangers), instantly liking them or disliking them. I do not let that influence how I treat them, though, I keep it to myself. Sometimes, if I am in contact with them (such as a new co-worker, etc.) they actually do give me a reason not to like them, but sometimes they turn out to be really good people, and I don't want to burn my bridges before they are even built!
Just try to keep an open mind. But if they are people you know, maybe they remind you of someone you have forgotten already, maybe a bad neighbor or something, you ran into when you were a kid...?
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I never thought about that before. That they could be reminding me of someone I forgot.. kinda weird.
I am not mean or anything to them.. but I still feel bad that just the sight of some people makes me do the whole  sigh thing.. I feel like a b***h. But, then again I am sure that there are people I annoy constantly.  |
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11-30-2006, 10:30 AM
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Location: Springfield, Missouri
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Originally Posted by poprocksncoke
There are a couple people I know, that annoy me to death. Now its not because of their personality for the most part. Most of the time they don't even have to say anything. Just the sight of them, annoys me. I feel bad about it, but there really isn't much that I can do about it.
Anyone else have the same feelings? Or am I just cold hearted?
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I've noticed in my years on the planet that I run across people who for no apparent reason I take an instant dislike to and who without provocation annoy me. Most of the time I don't immediately realize what it is that struck me that way, but upon reflection, I usually find that they exhibit some mannerism or characteristic that I don't like about myself or feel self-conscious about...or, that I'm unconsciously envious of something about them that manifests in annoyance. You're young. You'll see with time that this is true, not in every case, but in probably a good majority of them When you can recognize that, you can move beyond it and maybe make a new friend |
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11-30-2006, 10:46 AM
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Originally Posted by MoMark
I've noticed in my years on the planet that I run across people who for no apparent reason I take an instant dislike to and who without provocation annoy me. Most of the time I don't immediately realize what it is that struck me that way, but upon reflection, I usually find that they exhibit some mannerism or characteristic that I don't like about myself or feel self-conscious about...or, that I'm unconsciously envious of something about them that manifests in annoyance. You're young. You'll see with time that this is true, not in every case, but in probably a good majority of them When you can recognize that, you can move beyond it and maybe make a new friend |
Aww.. that was nice.
I hope so.. I don't like being mean.
Ok, maybe I do sometimes.. but not ALLLLL the time. |
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12-10-2006, 07:43 AM
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Originally Posted by poprocksncoke
There are a couple people I know, that annoy me to death. Now its not because of their personality for the most part. Most of the time they don't even have to say anything. Just the sight of them, annoys me. I feel bad about it, but there really isn't much that I can do about it.
Anyone else have the same feelings? Or am I just cold hearted?
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Yes, you are.
It doesn't matter, though. If anyone is picking up on your negative vibes, they'll probably realize that you have a personal problem, not them.
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12-10-2006, 07:48 AM
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No, you're not weird! I get this all the time, sometimes without even speaking to the person... that doesn't make me treat them rudely, necessarily, but I just get a "bad vibe" about certain people. I'd like to think it's my instinct, since I'm a fairly good judge of character, and take it as a sign.  But in my 30 years on this planet, I've learned that some people aren't worth worrying about... so try to shake it off and ignore them! |
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12-10-2006, 07:52 AM
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Originally Posted by Fox Terrier
I do not let that influence how I treat them, though, I keep it to myself. Sometimes, if I am in contact with them (such as a new co-worker, etc.) they actually do give me a reason not to like them, but sometimes they turn out to be really good people, and I don't want to burn my bridges before they are even built!
Just try to keep an open mind. But if they are people you know, maybe they remind you of someone you have forgotten already, maybe a bad neighbor or something, you ran into when you were a kid...?
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I try to respect them too, unless they give me a good reason not to! But I've also been wrong about people, so it's not something I make a "firm rule" for judgement. For instance, one of my best friends didn't make a good first impression on me... I didn't get an awful feeling or anything (like I do occasionally), but just didn't really like her. She quickly proved to be a very cool person, and we've been close friends for over 10 years now! |
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