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I'm very outspoken, I have lifelong friends because I am and ward off people I would rather not associate with. To me respect is something that is earned not offered to people because of age or origin or group, I'm not politically correct, I've thought of decisions I've made based on the popular vote in all things in life and I've been wrong and said so many times. I hope to be perfect before I cough up my last breath...lol
Who earns your respect, is it someone that has disabilities that rose above it and did well, is it an older individual that instilled the right and wrong way to go about something or is it someone you put on a pedestal for one reason or another. I'm so tired of people that are dangled in front of us as winners when in fact they are posers without substance.
For me, everyone deserves respect until they do something to lose it. That's the way I would want to be treated, and that's they way my parents taught me to behave. Maybe that's "old fashioned", but it has worked very well for me over the years.
agreatlife I agree wholeheartedly, in business and in life, until i'm proven wrong thats a great take on life, don't lose what makes you attractive to others, keep the faith and plug along.
Totally agree ... I give everyone respect until they do something that IMO is not deserving of that respect. I'll back ways away from people when they are disrespectful or have no backbone when it comes to personal or family issues.
You've all said it very well. I believe that I am a reflective personality. I start out respecting all those that I meet, and if for some reason an individual beginw to treat me in a way that is less than desirable, I find that I treat that person the same way in response.
It's funny because in another thread, I just answered a post by suggesting that "you get what you give". Maybe I also give what I get.
Let me tell you who gets my respect, being a Vietnam Veteran, the men and women of our Armed Forces get my utmost respect for the job that they are trying to do now, I may not agree with what is going on with this war, but I will at least respect our military personnel, it's the least that we all could do.
My wife gets a great deal respect from me, for putting up with me for over 30+ years, she sure deserves respect for that....
I try to respect everybody's opinion, I think everybody deserves that and I hope that everybody will at least respect mine,whether we agree or not,after all this is how we learn from one another.
I'm so tired of people that are dangled in front of us as winners when in fact they are posers without substance.
When this happens you have to consider the source of the praise - who or what is doing the praising, and what's in it for them?
People who live by the Golden Rule get my respect. Harder than it sounds.
Something that's always bothered me is that some people seem to believe, for whatever reason, that kindness and unselfishness are actually signs of weakness.
For me, everyone deserves respect until they do something to lose it. That's the way I would want to be treated, and that's they way my parents taught me to behave. Maybe that's "old fashioned", but it has worked very well for me over the years.
I treat people with courtesy and kindness. When they've earned it I treat them with respect. That is what I expect in return.
If i made a statement of the fact that people had to earn my respect wouldn't that say something about me, i'm better than you, i look down upon you, your nothing unless i say or grant you my respect, hmm must be god huh.
I was raised with principles, the older folks you refered to as MR & MRS not by first name, you don't treat people like crap nor pass judgement regaurdless of who they are, how rich or poor they are, what they drove, were they lived, what they wore & so on.
I will add though i live by the you burn me once i forgive, burn me twice i don't forget, third time i come after your a**.
We're all human and make mistakes, do weird things, the one to pass judgement or say make me earn your respect needs to always remember the other person may just do it to them, the judge & jury type always want things their way and when the tables are turned they seem to make the other guy out to be the bad one, always amazes me lol.
I once had a guy tell me to show him what i got, impress me he said, so i stood there a min and went sure no problem, turned & walked away without a single word.
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