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View Poll Results: Should a spouse buy a Christmas gift or let them buy their own item?
Buy their own gift 5 33.33%
Buy a gift for them 10 66.67%
Voters: 15. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 11-28-2008, 09:38 PM
 
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Each year it seems as if my spouse buys herself items that she wants, this is good because now I didn’t waste any time having one or the other going back to exchange it for something else and she isn't disappointed with the item I got her. I like the idea that she knows what she needs, likes, and get without all the other issues of wrong size, color, or item and having the go back troubles.

I also prefer to get what I want for the same reasons. Is this showing less affection for not taking time out to get the “just the right gift” for someone you love and care about?
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Old 11-28-2008, 10:13 PM
 
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I think its fine to choose your own main gift, but spouses should still get each other a small gift to supplement the big one. I still like to have a surprise under the tree on Christmas morning.
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Old 11-28-2008, 11:21 PM
 
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My wife and I exchange ideas on what we would like for Xmas, then we pick one item out without telling and surprise the other with what we bought. It works well for us.
Though this year we went together and agreed on a cruise for the two of us. But I always surprise her with something. This year will be no different.
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Old 11-29-2008, 10:07 AM
 
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I think its fine to choose your own main gift, but spouses should still get each other a small gift to supplement the big one. I still like to have a surprise under the tree on Christmas morning.
It’s not easy to ignore the little yellow sticky notes with items written on them as she lives them all around the house! But I’ll get her something and surprise her.
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Old 11-29-2008, 10:09 AM
 
Location: Texas
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LOL! I think one way to mitigate the less personal approach of people buying their own gifts is to

1. Go with them and help them choose it.
2. Get a little something else under the tree to surprise 'em.
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Old 11-29-2008, 10:24 AM
 
Location: Texas
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My wife wants more golf clubs this year. So we will go together to get them b/c I can't size them or demo them without her...but I'll buy 'em. Then I will place other goodies under the tree.
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Old 11-29-2008, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Murfreesboro, TN
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It all depends on what you agree to with your spouse. What does he/she want to do?
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Old 11-29-2008, 02:10 PM
 
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I would rather not tell him what I want. That way it is so much more exciting for me to wait until he goes to work or church to lock the doors and unwrap it... I check the size, color, price or caret if it is jewelry, and rewrap it before he gets home..Then I unlock the door and go about my business.. And no one knows I've been bad
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Old 11-29-2008, 03:42 PM
 
Location: Sandhills
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The little woman and I each buy each other something that we don't know what it is. And then we pick something out also. Kinda nice to not know what you are getting. IMO it takes the fun out of it if you know what it is.
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Old 11-29-2008, 03:57 PM
 
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The little woman and I each buy each other something that we don't know what it is.
Do you try to figure it out together?

Since I'm spending his money, basically, he's buying his own present anyway one way or another. But please let ME pick out my own!!!
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