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Originally Posted by momof2dfw
And what did she teach her kids? NOTHING!
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When I was 8, my cousin was 16. She became pregnant by a 23 year old GI. They married and moved to the U.S. together where they had 3 more kids within 5 years and both of them wound up heavy on drugs for a few years.
The children suffered.
They turned out great eventually and all are well mannered and pretty successful.
They were the family others would talk bad about until they became clean.
Once they were clean, the kids were already used to running the house and the neighborhood.
My cousin is a great person, she has made many mistakes but now she is doing very well and both her and her hubby are still together.
I can tell you without a doubt that she had always the best of intentions, but was clueless in many areas.
The last thing parents who screw up need is too much judgement. That can cause them to give up even further. Many of those who don't teach their kids well are in deperate need of guidance themselves.
I'm not making any excuses. Just saying that for some people it's a lot easier to manage their lives and raise their kids, while others don't have a clue on how to go about things.
I was raised too strict. And when I left home, I went wild for a few years.
Balance is the key.
The most important thing is to give your kids love. If they know they are loved and supported, then they will be more likely to figure things out as they go along.
Those who don't feel loved, supported and accepted wind up testing waters. They will act up just to find out they are really loved.
Make sure your kids know and are who they are. The perfect children are often crying inside because they have only learned how to please adults without really being themselves.
I was raised old school and it took me years to realize my parents loved me.
My only wish for my daughter is that she is happy.
I know what it's like to be an unhappy child and don't wish that on anybody.
But then again, my daughter has a great disciplinarian for a mom who makes sure she doesn't get out of line.
If I raised her, she'd prolly wind up with some serious issues.