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I've been thinking and I'm curious about something. I'd like to know how you very experienced moms feel about something.
Are you happier now that your kids have grown. Is your life more fulfilling?
Or were you happier when your kids were young?
Happiness has, IME, more to do with being content with your circumstances, and not so much with the circumstances themselves. If you're miserable now (or happy now), there's not a lot of reason to assume that either will magically change just because 20 years have passed.
This exactly. I find that people can be happy or unhappy in pretty much any circumstance. When I was younger and my kids were younger I felt very stressed and sometimes envious of what I percieved was "lacking" in my life...as I've gotten older I've been able to be more content in my own life. It is very freeing. My kids contribute to my feelings of happiness but they are not responsible for it. I am. Not my kids, not my husband, not my job. Me. I can be happy with or without a newer car, a larger house, cool vacations, kids with straight A's or some amazing skill or talent. At some point, I just had to decide to be happy with the cards I was dealt....once I decided this, I was able to see I was dealt a pretty darn good hand - just not in the most obvious ways.
they are harder to parent when they are older because they need to make their own mistakes,we parents NEED to butt out 90% of the time(sooo difficult) and sometimes as a parent your advice is the last thing they want----plus trying to encourage getting married to career women falls on deaf ears(anyone out there have kids they want to marry off--lol!)
I LOVED being a mom when my kids were young. It was after the trying teen years that I was more than happy seeing them leave home.
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