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Alexander59: Many parents support thier children without any government help, you can too.
I am sure Atlanta has the same programs that other big cities have, you just have to look.
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Alexander, I usually don't agree with your posts and find your posts judgemental. However, in this case, I do agree -- that the programs in Atlanta are most likely similar to other big cities. Most are federal programs, and are based on federal income levels. The South, having a lower cost of living, would probably actually be
better for a single parent, rather than a state with a higher cost of living.
With three kids, it is going to be difficult no matter where you live. To think otherwise, is foolhardy. I am a single (divorced) parent, too. It is always a struggle. However, I do work two jobs, and I have managed to raise a wonderful daughter. It has been a multitude of work, but she is my child, and I have raised her in the best way I could, and have sacrificed a lot to give her a decent life, and to be sure that she has good values, good grades, and a chance for a good future. It has not been easy.
Maybe you are stressed and fantasizing about another place that would be "better," when in reality, it won't be. You already have things in place there, including doctors, dentists, schools, people you know .... you'd have to start all over again with those. That is stress right there.
I would suggest you search out your immediate area and see what else there is. Join a support group, call the United Way for referrals for groups, people, services, etc. -- they can geer you in the right direction.
Having three children is going to be stressful no matter which way you look at it. Go to a used bookstore and find some positive thinking books (I'm serious because when you're a single parent and you're so stressed, sometimes it helps to hear how your attitude and thoughts can affect you and can motivate you to try differently).
I understand the appeal of a place far away that might be "better," however, I think it is an illusion. Focus on raising your children, find yourself a group that gives you support and in which your children can also mingle with other kids. The stress of moving, starting over, finding services, the appointments, the new schools, all of that -- now that would be stressful!
It's a rough road being a single parent but you can do it. Plan carefully, map things out for your family, guide each child individually, and I know there are counseling services that are free or a sliding scale (again, call United Way for referrals in many areas of need), and get yourself emotionally back on track.
Good luck to you!!
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