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I recently bought both kids all needed school supplies, and some new clothes. I got them each some wardrobe basics, like pants, shirts, shoes, underwear, after all, they have to wear something.
Then, I happened to find some really cute tops for dd and printed tees for ds. they were a bit more than I would have cared to pay, but they were so nice I couldn't pass them up. I told them they could earn them, by doing household chores, ie, mow the lawn, mop the floor, scrub the tub. They scream that's not fair. I agreed---they should do such chores for nothing, see, now they get some nice duds for a little work!
Did you buy the clothes, give them to the kids and then tell them they'd have some extra chores to do or were you shopping with them, they saw clothes they wanted and you gave them the option? Big difference IMO. If they don't want the clothes just return them. Put the extra money toward lunches.
they were a bit more than I would have cared to pay, but they were so nice I couldn't pass them up.
That's where you made your mistake. Deciding to purchase them because they were "cute" and "nice". You should be making your purchases because they're TOO CHEAP to pass up. Remember: You're buying Axe now!
To me parents choose the clothes and pay for the clothes.
Kids do some chores because they are part of the family and they also get some pocket money because they are part of the family. They can earn extra pocket money by doing extra chores. They can spend the poket money on pretty much whatever they want.
I do not agree with buying some nice clothes and then telling the kids after you have done it that they have to earn them. I think that is teasing and to a degree abdicating what I believe is the parents responsibility.
I could understand making an agreement with a kid that if they want something expensive that if they do extra chores then they can have the expensive thing. In the case of girls maybe a fancy ball gown or something. I doubt if boys would generally care to enter such a deal. For a motor bike maybe. Either way, the deal should be struck before any action is taken.
Did you buy the clothes, give them to the kids and then tell them they'd have some extra chores to do or were you shopping with them, they saw clothes they wanted and you gave them the option? Big difference IMO. If they don't want the clothes just return them. Put the extra money toward lunches.
I agree. They shouldn't have to work for something they didn't ask for in the first place.
That's where you made your mistake. Deciding to purchase them because they were "cute" and "nice". You should be making your purchases because they're TOO CHEAP to pass up. Remember: You're buying Axe now!
and not able to pay for school lunches, don't forget.
To me parents choose the clothes and pay for the clothes.
Kids do some chores because they are part of the family and they also get some pocket money because they are part of the family. They can earn extra pocket money by doing extra chores. They can spend the poket money on pretty much whatever they want.
I do not agree with buying some nice clothes and then telling the kids after you have done it that they have to earn them. I think that is teasing and to a degree abdicating what I believe is the parents responsibility.
I could understand making an agreement with a kid that if they want something expensive that if they do extra chores then they can have the expensive thing. In the case of girls maybe a fancy ball gown or something. I doubt if boys would generally care to enter such a deal. For a motor bike maybe. Either way, the deal should be struck before any action is taken.
I'm not abdicating any responsibility. Like I said, we bought them a basic wardrobe, and a lot more than many kids get. It was just some little extras I thought they'd like,nothing I'm under any obligation to buy, so how am I abdicating any responsibility?
A man pays two dollars for something worth a dollar that he needs.
A woman pays a dollar for for something worth two dollars that she doesn't need.
Last edited by aidxen; 08-25-2010 at 04:32 PM..
Reason: Changed dollars to dollar in first line. Typo
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Either way, the deal should be struck before any action is taken.
