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finally someone knows what I'm talking about! That family was hilarious. I wonder if the unschoolers and cosleepers here used strollers
I did not see the movie...I should rent it. Maybe then I will be able to better understand your attitude.
My daughter co-slept and she did not ride in a stroller. She hated it. It was physically uncomfortable for her.
My family co-slept out of necessity. My daughter was inconsolable if she was not held. I followed my instincts and nurtured her needs the best way I could. I never thought I would co-sleep....ewwwwwww, but circumstances dictated otherwise.
Later, we found out she had a serious undiagnosed medical issue. She was in pain for a good portion of her infancy.
I am so grateful that I followed her lead and did not listen to those who insisted I was "spoiling" her by holding her a lot and sleeping with her.
As a matter of fact, her doctors were amazed at her progress and attitude (happy and content) given her medical condition. They asked me to counsel other parents and give them parenting tips. I told them it was quite simple...I listened to her cues and made her feel secure. If she needed me, I was there. Unfortunately, she was unable to verbalize what was wrong, but she certainly made it clear in other ways.
I am thrilled that I researched co-sleeping. If I based my decision on ignorance it may have cause further suffering for my child. In research, I found it to be commonplace throughout the world, including the US. There is no shame in it, even if most won't admit it upfront.
Co-sleeping, for me, was the opposite of laziness. It required much more dedication and energy than if I left my daughter to her own devices. If her situation was different, and she happily slept in a crib, I would have been fine with it. I am neither for or against co-sleeping, but for us it was a Godsend.
Right or wrong parenting philosophies are a matter of opinion. A child who is nurtured, loved, and mentored will grow into a prosperous adult. I applaud anyone who is invested in their children. I see far too many people dump their kids off on strangers, extracurricular activities, electronic devices, etc in order to avoid their parental responsibilities.
You can make fun of people all you want. But you should refrain from judgment of people who are trying to do what is best for their family. You do not know the situations of others, you do not know their motives, and you do not know the feelings of their children.
I did not see the movie...I should rent it. Maybe then I will be able to better understand your attitude.
My daughter co-slept and she did not ride in a stroller. She hated it. It was physically uncomfortable for her.
My family co-slept out of necessity. My daughter was inconsolable if she was not held. I followed my instincts and nurtured her needs the best way I could. I never thought I would co-sleep....ewwwwwww, but circumstances dictated otherwise.
Later, we found out she had a serious undiagnosed medical issue. She was in pain for a good portion of her infancy.
I am so grateful that I followed her lead and did not listen to those who insisted I was "spoiling" her by holding her a lot and sleeping with her.
As a matter of fact, her doctors were amazed at her progress and attitude (happy and content) given her medical condition. They asked me to counsel other parents and give them parenting tips. I told them it was quite simple...I listened to her cues and made her feel secure. If she needed me, I was there. Unfortunately, she was unable to verbalize what was wrong, but she certainly made it clear in other ways.
I am thrilled that I researched co-sleeping. If I based my decision on ignorance it may have cause further suffering for my child. In research, I found it to be commonplace throughout the world, including the US. There is no shame in it, even if most won't admit it upfront.
Co-sleeping, for me, was the opposite of laziness. It required much more dedication and energy than if I left my daughter to her own devices. If her situation was different, and she happily slept in a crib, I would have been fine with it. I am neither for or against co-sleeping, but for us it was a Godsend.
Right or wrong parenting philosophies are a matter of opinion. A child who is nurtured, loved, and mentored will grow into a prosperous adult. I applaud anyone who is invested in their children. I see far too many people dump their kids off on strangers, extracurricular activities, electronic devices, etc in order to avoid their parental responsibilities.
You can make fun of people all you want. But you should refrain from judgment of people who are trying to do what is best for their family. You do not know the situations of others, you do not know their motives, and you do not know the feelings of their children.
When someone posts on the introweb and ASKS FOR OPINIONS everyone has the right to give their opinion. If it seems judgemental, well, tough noogies. The opinions were asked for.
AND, children can be raised wonderfully and still not end up prosperous. Some even grow up to be junkies
Toonces007, I don't think anyone finds fault with someone choosing to have their infant child sleep in the family bed. The problem is with the particular original poster of this thread, and her choices to:
1) encourage and allow a non-infant child, past even her toddler years, sleep with the parents with no encouragement to stay in her own room.
2) have sex in the "family bed" while the "family" is in bed with them.
3) use the TV as the primary method of lulling the children to sleep.
When someone posts on the introweb and ASKS FOR OPINIONS everyone has the right to give their opinion. If it seems judgemental, well, tough noogies. The opinions were asked for.
AND, children can be raised wonderfully and still not end up prosperous. Some even grow up to be junkies
Opinions are fine....we all have them.
Judgments, on the other hand, are best left to our Creator.
This thread is so interesting to me. I had my own room from the day I came home from the hospital. And I didn't really know this until recently when I was watching Teen Mom with my mom and the baby slept in the room with the mom. My mom told me she never kept the crib in the room with her. As far as I know I have never heard of anyone doing this ever! I was kind of shocked!
Toonces007, I don't think anyone finds fault with someone choosing to have their infant child sleep in the family bed. The problem is with the particular original poster of this thread, and her choices to:
2) have sex in the "family bed" while the "family" is in bed with them.
I don't agree with the tv issue- I don't think it is healthy, but I don't see it as a big deal either.
What I have a problem with is sex in the bed with other family members present. That is so wrong on every level possible.
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