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Old 09-13-2010, 07:59 AM
 
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What are you meant to do and say when your 16 year old daughter tells you she's pregnant? I feel like I'm watching all kinds of hopes and dreams fly out the window. Everything feels like it's been flipped upside down.

The father is 17. He has a shady past. Well he has a shady present too. We thought that if we outright forbid this relationship, that would just encourage it....

He says that he's going to change from how he's been acting over the last few years. But I can't help to think of my daughter being young, single with a baby while he's in jail or something...

My husband is stuck on anger right now.

What do you do?
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:20 AM
 
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:44 AM
 
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That she will be going with me to the clinic to get an abortion basically . There is no need for her to have a child at that age and i won't allow it.
Lol, you don't have a choice in the matter. Zero.

To the OP...if she has made the decision to have the baby all you do now is love and support her. The mistake has been made and can't be taken back, all you can do is move forward. I wish you luck, I am sure you are heartbroken
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:48 AM
 
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Heartbroken or a troll.
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:52 AM
 
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:53 AM
 
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That she will be going with me to the clinic to get an abortion basically . There is no need for her to have a child at that age and i won't allow it.

I Personally dont believe in abortions. But to force someone to have one and a sixteen year old at that. It is not your choice. What is done is done. She has to make a decision that she will be able to live with.

OP - I cant imagine the hurt and anger your feeling right now. If it were me I would be having the biggest heart to heart talk with her and just explain her options (as stated before I would Never get an abortion but I also understand why some do) She is very young and I'm sure very frieghten.
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:54 AM
 
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Of course i do....she still has to live with me and i can make her life quite irritating if need be. Plus there are natural teas that simulate uterine contractions. Either which way i will get my way lol.
Wow. Just wow.
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:54 AM
 
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:55 AM
 
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I would seriously urge her to consider adoption if she doesn't want to consider termination (which she has every right to make her own decision over). It's probably impossible for her to see right now but she will eventually be left 'holding the baby', it sounds as if the father has little to no chance of ever stepping up to the plate. Do you feel like this has been the shock she needed to pull her life together, or is she likely to end up just palming the kid off on you and going back to her old ways?
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Old 09-13-2010, 08:55 AM
 
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