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Me 2 Hopes!!!!
I used to do the "Monster Hunt" with a spray bottle of blue colored Monster Killer Spray. It was water with a couple of drops of blue food coloring. After I had "hunted" with her I left the bottle on her side table. I don't think she ever used it herself. If she did she didn't tell me.
Ours wasn't to get her out of our bed, she was just scared of the monsters. Of course it didn't help that hubby told her that she had a friendly monster living under her bed named "Freddy". I could have killed him. Then we had to make rules for "Freddy" like, No feet grabbing, Can't come out when she is sleeping, God I don't remember them all.
you're all right. i think i will try the super nanny approach first. but lisalan is right - i have my other son to worry about. we'll see how it goes. thanks for all the responses - i feel less desperate
Thank-you. It may work it you have one child but throw another child into the mix and the whole household is awake. Sometimes you have to choose your battles.
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Thank-you. It may work it you have one child but throw another child into the mix and the whole household is awake. Sometimes you ahve to choose your battles.
I guess you have to weigh a couple of days/nights of discomfort vs not sleeping well for a couple of more years because there is an additional person in your bed. Me - I'd go for a couple of days of inconvenience followed by some good sleeping and privacy.
AnonChick gives great advice. Definitely address this now. Don't wait for an age of reason. There's no reasoning at any age for this issue. My sister had a 12 year old who was still coming into her room and sleeping on her floor. As a result, I know first hand that putting his mattress in your bedroom isn't going to solve anything either. By doing that, you might get him out of your bed, but you won't get him out of your room. You're going to have to put up with the crying. It's the only way. The only other alternative is to carry him to his bed after he falls asleep. That will free up your bed for sleeping, but it won't solve the long term problem that could last for years if you don't take the firm approach now.
Nope sorry. There is an age of reason. My son was 6 when he understood that he had to sleep in his own bed and why. One nightafter many talks with him he just said "Mommy I'm going to sleep in my own bed."
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This is how most co-sleepers I know have transitioned their kids out of their beds and eventually into their own rooms. If your husband changes his mind you could try and make it fun for your son by creating a fort or a nest for his mattress on the floor or his bed so that he'll actually sleep in it instead of in your bed. Eventually he'll reach an age where he won't want to sleep in your room. Good luck with whatever you end up doing.
Whoa. I totally disagree. My Aunt and Uncle were the family bed family, then the kids got too big so they did (this cheating option, imo) of putting matt-resses on the floor for BOTH of their boys.
Guess what?
Older boy didn't start sleeping in his own room until 16!!!!
Younger one who is 16 now is STILL in there.
And btw, aunt and uncle are divorcing now.
Can't say that this was the sole reason, but it sure was one of them.
That makes no sense. Why would a 16 year old want to sleep in the same room as his parents For goodness sakes do his parents have no backbone whatsoever? Its not like they are dealing with a young child here. Tell the teenager to get out and put locks on the master bedroom door. Geez
That makes no sense. Why would a 16 year old want to sleep in the same room as his parents For goodness sakes do his parents have no backbone whatsoever? Its not like they are dealing with a young child here. Tell the teenager to get out and put locks on the master bedroom door. Geez
Backbone does not all of a sudden materialize when one has teens. It starts with being consistent when they are small children. Even (especially) when it is challenging and not the easiest thing to do. It's a heck of a lot easier to deal with a tantruming 4 or 5 yo than a 15 or 16 yo that has learned that his/her parents will relent rather than deal with a challenging situation.
When I was their nanny, with the older child as an infant. They started bringing him into the bed at night even after I had put the kid to sleep in his CRIB in his OWN room!!!!
They would wake him up and bring him into bed with them! (They both worked too much and figured this was their only time with the kids) how sad huh?
And yes, they have NO backbone, they were the masters of their own disaster.
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For goodness sakes do his parents have no backbone whatsoever? Its not like they are dealing with a young child here. Tell the teenager to get out and put locks on the master bedroom door. Geez
