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Old 10-27-2010, 05:28 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I wonder what your thoughts on this is? Personally, I think this kid is going to get his love of dresses beat out of him all throughout school.
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Old 10-27-2010, 05:48 AM
 
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hopefully the world will be a better place by the time he enters school. People whose values are not the stereotypical conservative view, are on their way out of power and influence, while counter cultures become popular culture. Times are changing.
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Old 10-27-2010, 05:52 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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hopefully the world will be a better place by the time he enters school. People whose values are not the stereotypical conservative view, are on their way out of power and influence, while counter cultures become popular culture. Times are changing.
This has nothing to do with conversative/liberal views. This is basic gender roles. This kid is 5 years old he is still finding out who he is. I think it's a bad idea for the parents to encourage this. If he wants to wear dresses at age 16 or 18 okay but not 5.
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Old 10-27-2010, 06:18 AM
 
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I find the older people are, the more judgmental they are. Furthermore, it's not gender roles that dictate that boys shouldn't wear dresses. It's societal and cultural.
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Old 10-27-2010, 06:22 AM
 
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This has nothing to do with conversative/liberal views. This is basic gender roles. This kid is 5 years old he is still finding out who he is. I think it's a bad idea for the parents to encourage this. If he wants to wear dresses at age 16 or 18 okay but not 5.
And this unnerves you why? Not your child, not even your country or culture. At 5 years old, this kid is in the bliss of not having to live up to what you think is right or appropriate, best time of a kids life.
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Old 10-27-2010, 07:07 AM
 
Location: maryland
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hopefully the world will be a better place by the time he enters school. People whose values are not the stereotypical conservative view, are on their way out of power and influence, while counter cultures become popular culture. Times are changing.
Thank the gods!
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Old 10-27-2010, 07:13 AM
 
Location: Happy in Utah
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I think this woman, is a great Mom. Her child is going to grow up being himself,and liking himself.
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Old 10-27-2010, 08:38 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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This has nothing to do with conversative/liberal views. This is basic gender roles. This kid is 5 years old he is still finding out who he is. I think it's a bad idea for the parents to encourage this. If he wants to wear dresses at age 16 or 18 okay but not 5.
I agree. I was watching "60 minutes" years ago. It was a family with twin boys. The mom said, one was gay. I believe the boys were 7-8. The boy had a pink canopy bed with matching pink accessories. The mom would polish the boys nails. He had several dolls to play with.

Children are too young to know what they are. If your child says, he's frankenstein than what.
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Old 10-27-2010, 08:58 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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I think that some parents put unfair pressure on their kids because they wanted a daughter instead of a son, or vice versa, and the children can end up confused. I watched the video, and I don't believe this is the case with Dyson. His parents, brother, teacher and psychologist all seem to be supportive of this boy being himself, and dressing up as a princess seems to be who he is. It might be a phase. I believe that kids can be born gay, but dressing like a girl doesn't mean this boy is gay. He just likes pretty things. Nobody is forcing him to do this or making these choices for him; he is just exploring what he likes, and it's nice that a boy is allowed to do that. Tomboys aren't looked down on, and they can play sports and wear pants and get dirty and nobody bats an eye, but boys have to be boys boys BOYS. This is not willful feminization of a boy. The other boys at school are not going to go home and say, "Hey, I want to wear a sparkly red dress too."

My daughter is disabled. When I was in elementary school, the "retards" were teased and shunned by lots of kids. My daughter's school is the opposite, and the kids there are so welcoming and kind to her. I've noticed a boy there who is, to be blunt, very flamboyant. Swishy, wears pink, the stereotypical voice, all that. Nobody cares. It's not really weird anymore. And that is a good thing. I'll take a school where a kid can wear a dress for Halloween over one where a bunch of punks beat him up after school any day.

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Old 10-27-2010, 09:00 AM
 
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I can't see the video (at work) but I get the jist of it from the other posts and I applaud the mother for letting her son be who he is. Being homosexual or transgender is a VERY VERY difficult thing to deal with and children who feel this way will no doubt go through some very trying times and likely be teased for being different but at the very least these children should have their parents, the people who are supposed to love them UNCONDITIONALLY for who they are, allow them to be who they want. At least this child will feel comfortable in his own skin at home if no where else.
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