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Now lets get philosophical,
To me there is a difference between corporal punishment and fistycuffs. As I have written in my blog on several occasions, I think that we should use corporal punishment but that is not the way these days. We put people in jail for 10's of years and somehow think that is human or humane. Anyway if my 23 yo hit back, I would say my child you have two options. Either stay and receive coporal punishment or leave but I am not going to have a person who can not control their anger living in this house.
Now lets get philosophical,
To me there is a difference between corporal punishment and fistycuffs. As I have written in my blog on several occasions, I think that we should use corporal punishment but that is not the way these days. We put people in jail for 10's of years and somehow think that is human or humane. Anyway if my 23 yo hit back, I would say my child you have two options. Either stay and receive coporal punishment or leave but I am not going to have a person who can not control their anger living in this house.
I'm not sure where to start b/c I feel like I have a lot to say.
Your 23 and if you hit them it is out of their hands and into the hands of the law-even if they didnt want to press charges-it would be out of their hands to stop the precedings.
They could and might be the worst parents and meanest people in the world but it is your responsibility to control your own behavior. Someone suggested therapy/counseling and it sounds like it is something you should do for yourself. It can teach you how to manage your emotions and not engage in their crazy behavior. A lot of times family members do a sort of "dance" with one another knowing exactly what buttons to push with each other.
It would be in your best interest to disengage in these moments where they are looking to fight with you-I know this from experience. Keep your side of the street clean, leave yourself with nothing to apologize to them for. You're doing it for yourself-for your future relationships.
You do not sound like a monster-just in a bad cycle of violence- and looking for a way out. It will really start with changes in you-chances are they never will-but you can have a more peaceful existence.
Now lets get philosophical,
To me there is a difference between corporal punishment and fistycuffs. As I have written in my blog on several occasions, I think that we should use corporal punishment but that is not the way these days. We put people in jail for 10's of years and somehow think that is human or humane. Anyway if my 23 yo hit back, I would say my child you have two options. Either stay and receive coporal punishment or leave but I am not going to have a person who can not control their anger living in this house.
I find it disturbing that you think corporal punishment is appropriate for a 23 year old.
Well she only slapped but it was so pathetic on her part (words were exchange and when someone insults me, I'll use even more offensive term such as the b word). I ended up slapping her back, causing her to cry at the end. Later on she blamed it on me, how one must never hit a mother.
I figure there won't be a next time because either I'll be living somewhere else or I'll just walk away and locked myself in my room. She'll have no one to argue nor talk to but herself. It would be hilarious hearing her talking to the walls.
Now lets get philosophical,
To me there is a difference between corporal punishment and fistycuffs. As I have written in my blog on several occasions, I think that we should use corporal punishment but that is not the way these days. We put people in jail for 10's of years and somehow think that is human or humane. Anyway if my 23 yo hit back, I would say my child you have two options. Either stay and receive coporal punishment or leave but I am not going to have a person who can not control their anger living in this house.
Yeah but if a parent is getting fistycuffs with their adult child, is the child suppose to take it and ask, more please?
Honestly if someone is beating on me, no way am I just gonna be like mmmmm HIT ME HARDER..
And it's not the daughter who is starting it, its the parents hitting her and expecting it to be ok. No way is it ok to hit someone over the age of 18 to "punish" them or because you are angry at them. No matter what you think Aiddy, the LAWS state its not ok. Are you for breaking the law?
It's time to quit using 'saving money' as an excuse. RENT an apartment. Maybe even share with a room mate. Use that money for today. tomorrow may not be any better.
Missing her cooking, because you can't cook is one of the poorest excuses that I have ever heard for living at home at your age. Yes, you are lazy! Eat sandwiches until you decide if you want to learn how to cook.
Move out. You need to. Or don't complain about your mother.
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