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My GF and I planned to go to Hawaii during Holidays for a nine days trip.
We chose Hawaii because it seemed like a safer destination than the Carabeans for the baby (5 month old).
But the more we look into it, the worse our idea sounds. Back in October when we signed that last minute deal, we didn't know much about Hawaii and we assumed our little angelic baby would sleep soundly on the plane.
Fast forward today, the baby is pretty high maintenance. The multiple take offs and landings will probably be hell. Plus, the more we read on the area we're visiting, the more we see that most activities are not recommended for children.
My mother, out of nowhere, offered to babysit the baby. She's been with him for the first two months of his life when my GF recovered from her c-section. I have zero worries that she would take great care of him.
What I wonder if the baby, at 5 months old, would suffer from separation anxiety or if he would not even care at all.
I think it will be fine, Your mom has a releationship with the baby, know how to take care of it, and know the routine. Go have a good time, Call your mom every day to see how she and the baby are doing, (remember the time difference). The baby will not have any ill effect from you not being there for 2 weeks. Just do something real nice for you mom when you get back. For helping durring vacation, and the last 5 months. Maybe a nice day at the spa for her.
get your sorry arse on the plane-- that baby will be just fine with your mother and listen to flyonpa-- get your mom a gift certificate for something you know she likes to do ---just tell her not to spoil that grandbaby too much
Your baby will be fine, but you and your girlfriend may regret not bringing her; that's a long time to be away from such a young baby: for you, that is. (and if she's breastfeeding that could be a big isseu) If it comes down to going or not going I'd go, but I'd also consider just bringing the baby with you. You can always get a babysitter for those times when you want to do very adult things. Plane travel with babies isn't fun, but it's certainly doable, and with two of you there it shouldn't be too bad. And I do think that in general people often have unrealistically negative impressions of what it's like to travel with a little kid. It's definitely not the same as traveling by yourself, but it can also open up new doors.
That said, if you do want to go on the trip by yourselves and don't mind leaving the baby for that long, your baby will be fine staying with your mother.
The baby is not going to have separation anxiety at 5 months old. I would personally NEVER do it. The only time I have ever left my kids overnight is when I was in the hospital recovering from a c-section. If I was going to go on a trip I would either take them with me or not go at all.
Not everyone feels this way though. If her conscience can handle it and your g/f has no problem with it go ahead and have fun
I took my 10 week old to Turkey which was a 5 hour flight and a 2 hour transfer. She was fine. The earlier you travel with your kids the easier it is and the more accustomed they become.
Personally I would never leave my baby behind. I left my older daughter with her grandparents for one night while we went to Barcelona once when she was 2 and a half years old and it was awful. I couldn't enjoy myself because I was constantly worrying about her, and they'd looked after her several times before that, just not when I was so far away.
My best friend however took her two week honeymoon in the Caribbean and left her 1 year old with the grandparents. She wasn't bothered by it. She preferred having the freedom to drink and be out all night and do watersports etc, without having to be responsible for the baby the whole time.
Only you and your girlfriend know what is best for you, in terms of being able to manage a baby on a plane and being able to be away from your baby for that long.
I say go and have a good time! As the baby gets older, and especially if you have more kids down the line, it will get harder and harder to get time away. Enjoy it while you can.
That said, you may not find it as relaxing as those pre-baby vacations of the past, as you'll frequently find yourself missing the baby, worrying if he/she is ok, and yes, talking about the baby a LOT! LOL!
Go to Hawaii with your GF and have fun - your baby will be fine with Grandma. At 5 months, your baby is too young to remember anything about you being gone, and is not yet into having separation anxiety. Yes, you will feel guilty and be obsessed with wanting to know what is going on every second of your trip, but that is normal. Check in a few times a day, and have Grandma hold the phone up to your baby's ear so you can talk and he/she can hear Mommy and Daddy's voices. For the rest of you trip, relax and enjoy yourselves!
DH and I have gone on several trips (four short and one 10-day) since having kids. It was hard being gone, but so worth it. Now, we mostly go on family trips since the kids are getting older and we have no one nearby to watch them so we can get away. Take advantage of the opportunity while you've got it! Aloha and have fun!
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