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LOL. I can see the honest parents filling out the papers asking why they want to adopt a child--"So that our natural child has a companion and will sleep in his own bed."
It totally depends on the parenting style. Some parents prefer that relationship with their child over the strong authoritative style.
And it's not bad and it probably helps shape kids a certain way. If a parent works with the child and creates an inviting room and helps the child find ways to prefer his or her own room, it's not bad. And maybe the child is fearful or lonely and will get over it in time commanded to suffer in silence alone - but it doesn't HAVE to be that way.
I can see that.
I wasn't thinking the parent should take an authoritative tone and throw the kid out in anger, but just to explain that the natural order of things is that mom and dad's room is their room and Katy's room is Katy's and that's where she needs to sleep. Not in a mean way, just in a matter of fact way.
Has anyone in this situation tried a role reversal in which the mom or dad sleeps in the child's room until they fall asleep and then quietly leave? Maybe that could work?
They did this on Supernanny last night. First they brought some of the kid's toys into the room and spent 20 minutes hanging out in his bedroom playing with the toys with him. Then they put him in his bed, and the mother sat on the floor in the same spot with her back to the bed and they just let him scream and yell until he fell asleep. The father had his turn, too, but it took longer for the kid to fall asleep because the father kept trying to sneak out of the room before the kid was really asleep, lol. If the kid woke up, they had to put him back in bed and do the whole thing over again. It only took a few nights to get him to sleep in his own bed. The hard part was letting the kid scream for as long as it took.
Yah, that's why I don't watch Supernanny....
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Originally Posted by cleasach
Has anyone in this situation tried a role reversal in which the mom or dad sleeps in the child's room until they fall asleep and then quietly leave? Maybe that could work?
That was my suggestion. I've done it with both of my kids.
Why are you in such a rush? She'll grow up so fast and you'll miss this time. Fortunately, I can get by on minimal sleep and we had sex other places. Ours slept with us until about 6, then slept on her own.
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Ours slept with us until about 6, then slept on her own.
