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Old 12-16-2010, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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When I was working at a Family Practice office a little boy came in for a cold. Older brother would not stop climbing all over everything (even after the doctor asked him to sit still) and ended up leaving with 4 sutures in his head!
Come to think of it, we had an incident like that, too! I don't remember all the details.
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Old 12-17-2010, 01:23 AM
 
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That's one of my biggest pet peeves where I work is having kids running around the store. And we have a rock-hard floor which could hurt someone pretty bad if they fall the wrong way. I'm constantly being told to tell kids to stop running around (even by their parents).

I feel really bad for people who have to shop while supervising three or more kids who won't behave. But at the same time I'm not their friggin' mother. Why am I supposed to be telling them not to run in the store? If I had an interest in doing that I'm sure I'd have my own kids. Rant over...
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Old 12-17-2010, 06:40 AM
 
Location: In a house
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My children in their later teens and now their 20s find it funny to act like fools in stores with me because they were not allowed to breathe wrong as kids.

I think they were 21 and 23 and went mattress shopping with me. These fools were jumping up and down on the beds. They also have been known to hide in clothes racks.

The difference now is I laugh my head off. I don't need to parent anymore, right? Right?
This story would have been more entertaining if you described what happened when they tried jumping up and down on 1) waterbeds and 2) thermopedic mattresses.

Also, clothes racks make awesome hiding spots.
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Old 12-17-2010, 07:03 AM
 
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I think the biggest factor for me is how the parent reacts to the misbehavior once it occurs and how they monitor it. Kids are going to get out of hand at times simply because they're looking for boundaries to be set. An incident that ends with the parent correcting the child and then keeping them close at hand is something I would consider a great example in discipline and child-rearing--not a perfect or always pretty process.

What becomes frustrating is when the child is behaving poorly and the parent sends them back off to keep behaving the exact same way--clearly they don't want them anywhere nearby (and who would?) but sending them off to terrorize other shoppers when you can't stand them yourself is the epitome of selfishness.
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Old 12-17-2010, 09:16 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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I'm in total agreement with the parents here who say, GET A CART! Teach them to NOT stand up in the cart...(dealing with that with grandson now). These kids need to be taught at a very young age that you stay in the cart! Once they're too old to stay in the cart, they should either keep their hand on the cart, stay right at your side, do not TOUCH anything unless you are TOLD to get the box of cereal, etc. I get so pi$$ed at these parents who let their kids run amok in public. I can't even fathom what goes through their heads....all I find myself thinking is, "You are an absolute freaking moron! You LOVE your kids?! If you actually gave a crap about your kids, it would KILL you to think that there are at least 20 people out here who want to pick them up and spank their butts! People are wanting to do horrible things to you and your children, because you're such a complete MORON! But hey, you don't want to stop them or discipline them because you LOVE them and don't want them mad at you?"

The mentality of some people just kill me. My kids never did any of these things more than once. LOL Because of playing the bad guy (gal) right off the bat, my kids were LOVED! They got complimented all the time! I got complimented on having such well behaved, polite kids, all the time! Jeez, where is the payoff in having disrespectful, out-of-control kids? Some parents are plain and simply......morons. To be honest with you, when I see kids out of control like that, the first person I want to turn over my knee and put in time out, is the irresponsible, inconsiderate parent who's allowing that behavior in the first place. If you can't handle the job, hire a damn babysitter. Hehe...okay, stepping off the soapbox! LOL
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Old 12-17-2010, 09:23 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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After reading a few more posts, a subject came up (climbing back on the soapbox!) Lawsuits and injuries in stores. I personally knew a woman whose child was running amok "touching things". This child actually pulled an item from the bottom of a stacked display. The display came crashing down upon the 3 year old child, who was knocked to the ground. The store was sued!! The mom got a new car, a couple of new horses, new furniture for her house....her child had the medical bills and "counselling" (for emotional trauma!!!) paid for. I swear, sometimes I wonder if some of these trash parents consider these places to be "casinos", if you will....... If their unattended child gets hurt, (come on, come on....pull over the BIG ONE), momma gets a new car!!
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Old 12-17-2010, 12:58 PM
 
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I'm in total agreement with the parents here who say, GET A CART! Teach them to NOT stand up in the cart...(dealing with that with grandson now). These kids need to be taught at a very young age that you stay in the cart! Once they're too old to stay in the cart, they should either keep their hand on the cart, stay right at your side, do not TOUCH anything unless you are TOLD to get the box of cereal, etc. I get so pi$$ed at these parents who let their kids run amok in public. I can't even fathom what goes through their heads....all I find myself thinking is, "You are an absolute freaking moron! You LOVE your kids?! If you actually gave a crap about your kids, it would KILL you to think that there are at least 20 people out here who want to pick them up and spank their butts! People are wanting to do horrible things to you and your children, because you're such a complete MORON! But hey, you don't want to stop them or discipline them because you LOVE them and don't want them mad at you?"

The mentality of some people just kill me. My kids never did any of these things more than once. LOL Because of playing the bad guy (gal) right off the bat, my kids were LOVED! They got complimented all the time! I got complimented on having such well behaved, polite kids, all the time! Jeez, where is the payoff in having disrespectful, out-of-control kids? Some parents are plain and simply......morons. To be honest with you, when I see kids out of control like that, the first person I want to turn over my knee and put in time out, is the irresponsible, inconsiderate parent who's allowing that behavior in the first place. If you can't handle the job, hire a damn babysitter. Hehe...okay, stepping off the soapbox! LOL
Couldn't rep you again, beachmel, but preach it, sister!
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Old 12-17-2010, 02:19 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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Yeah well I go to a laundromat and some of the parents there Iwant to kill . There is one little kid when he comes running by me , I give him the evil eye and you should see how he reacts . guess what he behaves when he sees me watching him and still giving him the evil eye . His father acts like everyone has to put up with his kid . Guess what I dont . One day the older kid was kicking his brother and pulling him by the arm and I said something and the dad just came and picked the little one up and did not spank the other ones butt . I hate to tell you but mine older ones butt would have been turned cherry red that day no doubt . I dont believe in playing with disipline . I dont have to put up with other peoples kids and I wont !!!
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Old 12-17-2010, 04:08 PM
 
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Ok, if a parent tries to keep their kids in line, I wish the rest of thw world would MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS!

I don't know how many times I've tried to keep my kids in line only to have another shopper or sales clerk say oh, that's ok, with a big,k indulgent smile. That was when my kids were younger, they're teenagers now. Used to be I couln' t control them in a store for someone else butting in.

Oh, they were just sooooo cute, let them tear everything up! I would try my best to control my kids, but usually someone would gush all over them and say oh, that's ok!

I told my kids that they mind ME, not everyone else in the store. Well, those days are over, like I said, now that they are teens they wouldn't be caught dead in the same store with their mother!

But for all you busy bodies who think other people's kids are yours to control MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS If ia parent is trying to control them, don't say, oh, that's ok, they're ok. etc...........unless you want your store torn to #ell.

Once my kids knocked over an advertisement easel in a paint store, had those paint color strips. They were about 4-5 year old at the time. I kept telling them to leave it alone, the sales lady kept smiling at them and sying oh, that's ok, they're not hurting anyting, they're so cute. then they knocked the whole thing down. The sales lady got indigant and "demanded" they pick it all up, sorry, lady, I'm in a hurry and out of here, remember, you kept telling them it was alright? Then YOU deal with the "consequences"

I've had my kids tear right down the aisles, knock display items off shelves, tear down curtains, etc, despite my best efforts to control them, only to have clerks and shoppers tell them to go ahead, its ok, they're so cute. I finally told my kids NOT to mind other poeple, what if someone said oh, that's ok, just jump in the car with me and off we go?
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Old 12-17-2010, 04:18 PM
 
Location: The Midwest
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On a side note (relating to this thread), my 10 year old (soon 11) got invited to a birthday party- apparently they are going to be playing hide-and-seek at Wal-Mart! I fail to see why that's a good idea. Especially with 10 year old boys!!!! Not sure I'll let him go or not..he wants to and I'm sure it would be fun for the boys, but definitely not to the other shoppers! Plus, with the stores being very crowded because of Christmas shopping, I'm sure the employees would not appreciate it.
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