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Yeah but how did the girl get to work before she lived with these people?
She didn't work at first when she was posting here. When she got a job at BBB earlier this year, her mother drove her and picked her up.
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Originally Posted by txtqueen
My mom couldn't take me and I can't afford dorms.
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Originally Posted by LeavingMassachusetts
Student loans, scholarships and financial aid, my dear.
Exactly. And there was at least 14k in grandmother's bonds to add to financial aid and student loans. She could afford dorms more than most students who are living in dorms.
However, the reality is that nobody taught her she could do these things. Nobody taught her how to even apply to college. There are many people in the world whose parents don't point them in the right direction. I'm proud she learned how to apply to college on her own this fall!
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Originally Posted by maciesmom
Oh yes. When doing nothing but taking a couple of classes was a huge imposition. Trust me. She has actually come a long way.
She truly has come a very long way. Lightening years within just a few short months. As much as everyone says she didn't listen to us, she DID listen to us. I don't think she would have gotten the job at BBB if everyone hadn't hounded her to get a job. I don't think she would have moved out of her mothers house if everyone hadn't hounded her about that.
This babysitting/nanny arrangement might not be perfect, but it helped her learn that leaving mom's house isn't that scary. Remember, she was terrified of going off on her own. This live-in babysitter arrangement was a stepping stone for her. In that regard, this job has been a success---if she goes on to having her own apartment or living in a dorm instead of back into her mother's house.
There's really no point... really... she won't listen to what we say anyway... BUT...
It's not too late to apply for college. Why does everyone sound like they are talking about it like it's too late or something she should have done? Why can't she still go to college? My friends 23 yr. old son just enrolled at the local university this year - he even gets a private dorm room because of his age. He had NO job, NO car, crappy grades in high school... and now he's studying to become a plastic surgeon . He got student loans, grants, etc... Txt needs to contact whatever university she wants to go to and talk with an enrollment councelor. They will happily get her the forms, websites, etc... that she needs to enroll. She has a better chance at grants because she is on her own and only her income (BB&B - the babysitting one doesn't count) will be considered. It gets her an education and future. It gets her a place to live and be fed 3 squares a day. And, it will give her a goal in life with a set schedule and the boundaries she needs. And I am talking about 4 year university college here... not a class or two of community college while living at home.
She didn't work at first when she was posting here. When she got a job at BBB earlier this year, her mother drove her and picked her up.
Exactly. And there was at least 14k in grandmother's bonds to add to financial aid and student loans. She could afford dorms more than most students who are living in dorms.
However, the reality is that nobody taught her she could do these things. Nobody taught her how to even apply to college. There are many people in the world whose parents don't point them in the right direction. I'm proud she learned how to apply to college on her own this fall!
She truly has come a very long way. Lightening years within just a few short months. As much as everyone says she didn't listen to us, she DID listen to us. I don't think she would have gotten the job at BBB if everyone hadn't hounded her to get a job. I don't think she would have moved out of her mothers house if everyone hadn't hounded her about that.
This babysitting/nanny arrangement might not be perfect, but it helped her learn that leaving mom's house isn't that scary. Remember, she was terrified of going off on her own. This live-in babysitter arrangement was a stepping stone for her. In that regard, this job has been a success---if she goes on to having her own apartment or living in a dorm instead of back into her mother's house.
Hopes that type of stuff is common sense.There are many people who are worse off than txt queen who don't have to be taught those things. While yes txt has evolved somewhat she also has ignored just as much advice as she has taken.
There's really no point... really... she won't listen to what we say anyway... BUT...
It's not too late to apply for college. Why does everyone sound like they are talking about it like it's too late or something she should have done? Why can't she still go to college? My friends 23 yr. old son just enrolled at the local university this year - he even gets a private dorm room because of his age. He had NO job, NO car, crappy grades in high school... and now he's studying to become a plastic surgeon . He got student loans, grants, etc... Txt needs to contact whatever university she wants to go to and talk with an enrollment councelor. They will happily get her the forms, websites, etc... that she needs to enroll. She has a better chance at grants because she is on her own and only her income (BB&B - the babysitting one doesn't count) will be considered. It gets her an education and future. It gets her a place to live and be fed 3 squares a day. And, it will give her a goal in life with a set schedule and the boundaries she needs. And I am talking about 4 year university college here... not a class or two of community college while living at home.
If not txt can always join the military or the reserves and get them to pay for it .
I just don't get you. There are plenty of young women on my job who work full time (40 hours a week) and go to school full time and have their own apartment (some with a room mate).
Why you can't do this is beyond my comprehension. You seem to intentionally put yourself in these situations so you can complain about it ---- or, you're making up these crazy stories just to see pages and pages of responses and, naturally, you have a pat answer or excuse to every single response.
You're 21? Wow... you've got a long, hard road ahead of you. It's going to be a lot longer and harder if you keep the attitude you have now. Grow up. Honestly, you claim to be 21 but your postings (whinings) reflect the mentality and maturity level of a 15 year old.
Hopes that type of stuff is common sense.There are many people who are worse off than txt queen who don't have to be taught those things. While yes txt has evolved somewhat she also has ignored just as much advice as she has taken.
I'm going to agree here.....there are many in way worse off situations, who know they want to get out of them and will do anything to do it - including figuring out how to go to college.
Hopes that type of stuff is common sense.There are many people who are worse off than txt queen who don't have to be taught those things. While yes txt has evolved somewhat she also has ignored just as much advice as she has taken.
I suggested the military a kazillion times. Not interested.
Yet she wants to be a police officer which has a similar structure and boot camp like academy? . Not to mention you can learn a skill you can use outside while you go to school. My exes friend learned how to repair helicopters while he was in....and went to school in there too. So he came out 3 years into a b.a. and spent the next 3 working pt making good money while he finished up and got his masters.
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. He got student loans, grants, etc... Txt needs to contact whatever university she wants to go to and talk with an enrollment councelor. They will happily get her the forms, websites, etc... that she needs to enroll. She has a better chance at grants because she is on her own and only her income (BB&B - the babysitting one doesn't count) will be considered. It gets her an education and future. It gets her a place to live and be fed 3 squares a day. And, it will give her a goal in life with a set schedule and the boundaries she needs. And I am talking about 4 year university college here... not a class or two of community college while living at home.
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. Not to mention you can learn a skill you can use outside while you go to school. My exes friend learned how to repair helicopters while he was in....and went to school in there too. So he came out 3 years into a b.a. and spent the next 3 working pt making good money while he finished up and got his masters.
