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If your teenage daughter didn't like to wear dresses, skirts, or wear makeup and prefered to keep her hair short or buzzed and wear boys clothes, would you still force her to dress feminine?
And if the family were going out somewhere that required everyone to dress nice, would you object to her wearing something like this?:
To address this OP alone I let my daughter wear what she wants to within reason. If she were the type who likes to dress like a Tomboy I don't necessarily have a problem with that either, however if we are going out and the situation called for it I would require her to wear what I would deem appropriate dress for the occasion. No discussion no debate.
To force the issue would indicate that the parents are uncomfortable with their daughter's appearance and most likely orientation. Maybe the parents could use some counseling, as well.
If your teenage daughter didn't like to wear dresses, skirts, or wear makeup and prefered to keep her hair short or buzzed and wear boys clothes, would you still force her to dress feminine?
And if the family were going out somewhere that required everyone to dress nice, would you object to her wearing something like this?:
I'm not really a metrosexual. But I do wear shirts and ties and I would like to think that I may have learned something along the way.
And I would object strongly to that brown belt. And the tie also.
More generally, I would expect her to dress 'appropriately' for the occasion. Just the same as how the 5 year old wanting to go to a formal occasion as spiderman is vetoed.
If your teenage daughter didn't like to wear dresses, skirts, or wear makeup and prefered to keep her hair short or buzzed and wear boys clothes, would you still force her to dress feminine?
And if the family were going out somewhere that required everyone to dress nice, would you object to her wearing something like this?:
No she is her own individual..I wouldnt force her too..I'd ask her to tho..and let her know why..and let the choice be hers..
Teens need to express themselves..We may not agree with the way they dress..but its one thing they have control over..they really have no say in their lives...Teens arent the same person when they become adults..Most teens grow up..and often say..Oh my god..did I really dress like that?
To force the issue would indicate that the parents are uncomfortable with their daughter's appearance and most likely orientation. Maybe the parents could use some counseling, as well.
I completely agree with this.
You can't force your daughter into changing who she thinks she is. You can force her to dress in a way you find more 'appropriate' for your formal event, but it won't change why she's dressing in the way she wants to the rest of the time. If I were you I'd be sitting down with her and discussing the deeper issues here.
Maybe there is a compromise in a nicely tailored women's pant suit?
Hello, I probably should have been more clear in my first post. I'm the girl who likes to dress like how I described. I kind of had to fight my parents along the way to get my hair short and dress this way, but they're starting to let up and not say much. I was just asking this question in general, to see what the parents here would or wouldn't allow.
Hello, I probably should have been more clear in my first post. I'm the girl who likes to dress like how I described. I kind of had to fight my parents along the way to get my hair short and dress this way, but they're starting to let up and not say much. I was just asking this question in general, to see what the parents here would or wouldn't allow.
So, tell us about all the 'deeper issues' you have!
I read all the posts because I have three daughters, all grown up now. When I was a teenager, I never wore skirts or dresses unless I absolutely HAD to. I never wore makeup, either. I did have long hair, though.
Today, at 59 years old, I never wear dresses or skirts, do not wear makeup, and my hair is about two inches long!
One of my daughters is rather girly and two of them are tom-boys, like me.
Was it a man's shirt and tie? And are you dressing this way because it's your style or because you want to tick off your parents?
I've got no problem with a girl (or woman) wearing man-ish clothing. Some women just do not look good in frills and laces. But do it with a little style! Not something off the rack from the boys/mens department. You can easily find ladies clothing very similar to what you have pictured. The tie? Some women can definitely swing it. But I'd make sure it was a great looking tie. With the right attitude and knowing how to pull it all together and carry it off I have no problem.
I'd be more worried if my daughter (which, granted I don't have) wanted to go to a wedding wearing mens clothing that would look bad on a man!
Last edited by DewDropInn; 12-16-2010 at 11:52 AM..
You can easily find ladies clothing very similar to what you have pictured.
But why? Not everyone is preoccupied with being a 'lady'. People should dress how they want. If the OP is more comfortable in pants from one department over the other, then that is what should be worn. After, it is the OP wearing the clothes, not the parent. "Oh, you have a vagina, so we assigned your gender as female for you when you were born, so now you have to wear clothes to accentuate your hips and breasts." Um, no. People need to get over this crap.
Standards for a wedding: clean, 'dressy' clothes. Why make it more rigid than that?
I think it's ridiculous to tie how someone wants to dress as a child and 'gender identity issues.' I mean, seriously?
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