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It seems more to me that the OP (who is the girl, not the parent) is more focused on the fact that the clothing is sold for men than that it looks a certain way. I feel like the statement is more important than the appearance. Again, perhaps there is a compromise that doesn't have to mean one gets their way and the other doesnt.
You know what...I was pretty 'tomboy' as a kid. I never wanted to wear anything except pants and shorts...I hated bows, etc. T shirt and jeans girl.
But I appreciated when we had a really formal occasion to go to. Formal is formal. It's like a costume you put on for the occasion. So all the 'feminine' stuff I had when I was a kid/teen was formal wear.
I agree with this. I was an extreme tomboy as a kid. Yet, I knew if we were going to certain places I was going to wear a dress.
Gender identity issues? Is this the Victorian era? I am a heterosexual, married woman. I used to dress all different kinds of ways as a teen. Sometimes, I would wear my dad's flannel shirt, jeans and a pair of boots - all topped off with makeup LOL. Other times I'd wear very flowy, dressy skirts and lots of jewelry. It has to do with a kid finding herself and experimenting.
Sounds like your daughter might be gay or not. The best thing to do is just love her and accept her and keept the communication open. It's hard not to talk about her clothing choices, but for a teen if you attack the clothing you are attacking them in their minds. Just embrace her for the kind of girl she is.
Oh please.
Dressing in opposite gender clothing does NOT mean one is gay. Dear Lord. 2010 called...we want you to join us.
I let my girls dress how they want. As long as they won't get arrested, they're free to dress themselves.
This thread is a reflection of the lack of parenting skills of so many parents. (Yeah just because you CAN have kids doesn't mean you're qualified.) If you overly-control your kids they WILL do the opposite as soon as your back is turned. You cannot IMPOSE your will on them, it just doesn't work.
My parents forced me to cut my hair short as a boy. I remember being 8 and wanting long hair, but I was not allowed to have it. I grew it long at the age of 18, and it's been long ever since then. In fact I'd rather starve than cut my hair. I had 10 years to think about it, and it shaped the entire rest of my life.. probably partly out of spite - I continue to wear my hair long, and I won't cut it for any reason ever.
If your teenage daughter didn't like to wear dresses, skirts, or wear makeup and prefered to keep her hair short or buzzed and wear boys clothes, would you still force her to dress feminine?
And if the family were going out somewhere that required everyone to dress nice, would you object to her wearing something like this?:
Sounds like your daughter might be gay or not. The best thing to do is just love her and accept her and keept the communication open. It's hard not to talk about her clothing choices, but for a teen if you attack the clothing you are attacking them in their minds. Just embrace her for the kind of girl she is.
I am the daughter and I'm not a lesbian. I'm very attracted to men.
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