how much time do you spend with kids (daycare, parent, playing)
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Quality time is a myth. Parenting involves time...period.
If I showed up at a job for 5 hours a week, but claimed it was quality time, would anyone think that I am capable of doing an effective job in that limited period of time?
Quality time is a myth. Parenting involves time...period.
If I showed up at a job for 5 hours a week, but claimed it was quality time, would anyone think that I am capable of doing an effective job in that limited period of time?
Not any more than if you showed up physically, but spent all day playing solitaire on the computer.
I would agree with everyone else, 5 hours a week IMO is not acceptable. Who is raising your kids? I don't understand why you would have children if all you can committ to them is 5 hours a week. I am extremely blessed in that I get to be a SAHM so I am with my kids alot and in 18 yrs of marriage my husband and I taken 1 vacation without the kids and couple of overnight trips. I feel bad for your kids and you, because you are missing so much, they are so much fun at their ages, learning something new all the time and you miss it all.
well i can't take kids with us becouse we are not going on places that are suitable for kids. many of hotels have rules that they don't accept kids under 12 yrs.
well i had kids cos i wanted family and i didn't want to be old mom, but i think that it is not so improtnat to take my 3 yr old with me now. i'm not saying that later in life we won't take them with us. but can you really relax with 3 kids under 5 anywhere. it is hectis as it is at home and imagine on airport.
well i can't take kids with us becouse we are not going on places that are suitable for kids. many of hotels have rules that they don't accept kids under 12 yrs.
well i had kids cos i wanted family and i didn't want to be old mom, but i think that it is not so improtnat to take my 3 yr old with me now. i'm not saying that later in life we won't take them with us. but can you really relax with 3 kids under 5 anywhere. it is hectis as it is at home and imagine on airport.
Then go places that you CAN take them! I've never been to a hotel that doesn't allow kids. Never. there are resorts that offer child care so you can spend time with your kids, and without them while on vacation. Or take a nanny or babysitter with you. I feel sorry for your kids. Your friends that criticize you for not spending enough time with them are spot on!
Ski weeks - A week at Mammoth or weekends at Snow Summit - took the kids with.
Summer on boat - How about a week on a houseboat? Took kids with.
Trips to LV - Took kids with.
Except for "date weekends" we took our kids everywhere. MY parents took their kids everywhere. I think I had every book there was that had a title like "London with Kids" or "Waikiki on a Budget".
ok i just wanted to read your opinions. you have right to your opinion.
maybe it is becouse i went to boarding school as a child so i don't have that family connection or whatever.
ok i just wanted to read your opinions. you have right to your opinion.
maybe it is becouse i went to boarding school as a child so i don't have that family connection or whatever.
My husband grew up with families who put their kids in boarding school. Or a military academy. He saw how "close" those families were. (Meaning they weren't.) There were kids on his street he saw maybe three, four weeks a year and most of those "families" were total dysfunctional messes. It's one of the reasons we took our kids everywhere. He'd seen what it does and he wanted no part of it.
BTW: YOU can break the cycle and start building connections with your own family.
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! I've never been to a hotel that doesn't allow kids. Never. there are resorts that offer child care so you can spend time with your kids, and without them while on vacation. Or take a nanny or babysitter with you. I feel sorry for your kids. Your friends that criticize you for not spending enough time with them are spot on!
