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i think though it is time to have a discussion about what is acceptable and not acceptable with our friends. Also probably about private parts and touching if you havent discussed that with her yet.
My daughter of course started crying hysterically and ran out of the room. The boy looked befuddled and told my son that "they have not broken up, but now things are complicated."
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The little six-year old boy said that? He said things are "complicated"? Not that I'm doubting you, because I'm not, but what 6-year old understands this whole concept of the situation enough to explain that things are "complicated"? If he's parroting something he's heard at home I'd be a little worried. Most 6-year olds are pecking each other on the lips or cheeks and holding hands, they aren't in a lip lock and discussing the state of their relationship.
He's either real smart. Or there's some interesting things going on in his own home that he's picking up on. Or he's a real short lothario.
I think the whole 'complicated' thing could also be picked up by watching any teen show. I volunteered at my daughter's school when she was in first grade and I was surprised at first-graders talking about 'boyfriends, breaking up, etc.' but I think they really were trying to apply it from what they have observed from older siblings and tv.
OP, I would really have a talk with Dad. He will have many issues to deal with as your daughter grows up, but he is her first and MOST IMPORTANT male role model. How he reacts and interacts with her about these things can have a huge impact on how she forms her own relationships as she grows up.
I think the whole 'complicated' thing could also be picked up by watching any teen show. I volunteered at my daughter's school when she was in first grade and I was surprised at first-graders talking about 'boyfriends, breaking up, etc.' but I think they really were trying to apply it from what they have observed from older siblings and tv.
Yes I agree with you. In fact, I had to have a talk a few months ago with the father of one of my daughter's 6 year old friend. She pushed my daughter down over a boy (5 years old) claiming he was HER boyfriend.
OP, I would really have a talk with Dad. He will have many issues to deal with as your daughter grows up, but he is her first and MOST IMPORTANT male role model. How he reacts and interacts with her about these things can have a huge impact on how she forms her own relationships as she grows up.
Yep, he apologized for over reacting and explained to her that we don't kiss our friend's on the lips. We can hug, but no kissing.
The little six-year old boy said that? He said things are "complicated"? Not that I'm doubting you, because I'm not, but what 6-year old understands this whole concept of the situation enough to explain that things are "complicated"? If he's parroting something he's heard at home I'd be a little worried. Most 6-year olds are pecking each other on the lips or cheeks and holding hands, they aren't in a lip lock and discussing the state of their relationship.
He's either real smart. Or there's some interesting things going on in his own home that he's picking up on. Or he's a real short lothario.
I think there is a reason for the precocious behavior also. He's being exposed to sexual situations, maybe a lot of movies or television that normally would bore a 6 year old.
My husband "caught" my 6 daughter with her 6 year old "boyfriend" with their arms around one another and kissing on the lips. He lost his composure and started screaming at our daughter. Then he went to tell his parents. They sort of down played it.
My daughter of course started crying hysterically and ran out of the room. The boy looked befuddled and told my son that "they have not broken up, but now things are complicated."
I am torn between laughing, and feeling a little unsettled. How much does a six year old really understand that what they were doing was wrong. We all kiss on the lips. Maybe she thought that since she kisses daddy on the lips, it would be ok to kiss her friend on the lips too? I am not sure how to react.
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I would have stopped them but not scolded. Your husband did what he thought was right, that’s all we can expect to do.
IMO, two six year old kids kissing is no different then holding hands. With only six years of life and only three are cognizant it was probably as innocent as it comes.
my 6 year old took a 2nd grade boy(7) behind a tree at school and made him kiss her. he cried and ran off after it happened. she has had "boyfriends" for a couple years now. her mom tells her she needs to stop cause boys have cooties. i told her boys get cooties from girls, so she needs to stop before she makes him sick. i guess it worked, she informed me yesterday that they broke up.
at this age, they have no clue about boy/girl relationships. they simply mimic what they see others do. it is a game to them, no different than hide and seek.
Completely normal situation in OP. And just because a six year old can use the word "complicated" correctly in a sentence does NOT mean he is being exposed to sexual situations! Good grief. And not all kids think the opposite sex has cooties.
Completely normal situation in OP. And just because a six year old can use the word "complicated" correctly in a sentence does NOT mean he is being exposed to sexual situations! Good grief. And not all kids think the opposite sex has cooties.
A normal 6 year old might use "complicated" to describe his math homework or a puzzle but normal 6 year olds don't want relationship drama. He's obviously being exposed to relationship drama - sexual or not. The lip lock sure makes it seem that he's being exposed to more than just friendship relationships.
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I don't watch teen shows so that wasn't in my head.
