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Old 03-15-2011, 10:08 AM
 
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During middle childhood, ages 6-12, when is it developmentally appropriate to discuss sex education and/or the reproductive system with children, if it is even appropriate?
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Old 03-15-2011, 11:14 AM
 
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My parents (my mom with me and sis, dad with brother) taught us about our bodies in age appropriate ways all of our lives. Correct names for anatomy, differences between boys and girls etc... When we got a little older they added topics as they saw fit based on where we were socially and psychologically. There was never a "big talk" just adding onto what they had already taught us so it seemed like a natural progression. Granted my parents aren't like most parents these days so I don't know what the "2011" answer would be.
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Old 03-15-2011, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I agree with purple. We have started telling our kids about their bodies when they were toddlers. Never any birds and bees talk. just a continuing conversation adding to it as they asked questions and as they got older. it is a big mistake to wait till they are in middle school. they probably already know more than you think by then. just keep the details age appropriate and let them know it is all natural, not bad or shameful.
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Old 03-15-2011, 02:33 PM
 
Location: Hillsborough
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I agree - it is a continuing conversation, not a one-time thing.
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Old 03-15-2011, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Striving for Avalon
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My parents (my mom with me and sis, dad with brother) taught us about our bodies in age appropriate ways all of our lives. Correct names for anatomy, differences between boys and girls etc... When we got a little older they added topics as they saw fit based on where we were socially and psychologically. There was never a "big talk" just adding onto what they had already taught us so it seemed like a natural progression. Granted my parents aren't like most parents these days so I don't know what the "2011" answer would be.
Actually, that is quite rational and mature. Most parents deal with it in as ineffectual a manner as you'd expect another kid to.
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Old 03-15-2011, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
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It is always appropriate, as long ss you do it age (and maturity level) appropriately. Like some of the posters above, my parents always allowed me to ask questions, and we never had a "Big Talk". I think that is the right way to go about it, to enable the child to ask when they are curious and not be afraid to discuss this topic with the parents. I hope to do the same with my kids.

I think there is a big difference between discussing the biology of reproduction though, and sex ed (using protection, when should you ahve sex with a boyfriend/ husband etc). The later, I would probably leave till middle school.
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Old 03-15-2011, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Eastwood, Orlando FL
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My parents (my mom with me and sis, dad with brother) taught us about our bodies in age appropriate ways all of our lives. Correct names for anatomy, differences between boys and girls etc... When we got a little older they added topics as they saw fit based on where we were socially and psychologically. There was never a "big talk" just adding onto what they had already taught us so it seemed like a natural progression. Granted my parents aren't like most parents these days so I don't know what the "2011" answer would be.
This is what I tried to do and it worked pretty well. My mother, one the other hand was not open to talking about that stuff.
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Old 03-15-2011, 03:38 PM
 
Location: maryland
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I would start at 5 then have another at 8 and another at 10...by then your kids knowing that you have the door open with dictate the pace of the talks based on their need to know things.
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Old 03-15-2011, 03:57 PM
 
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During middle childhood, ages 6-12, when is it developmentally appropriate to discuss sex education and/or the reproductive system with children, if it is even appropriate?

The appropriate age is the age when they start asking questions! Keep it age-appropriate and add on as they get older. It's a never ending "education".

If they DON'T ask, I would still start age-appropriate discussions about the body, development, reproduction, "sex", etc.

Your kid may be embarassed to ask and you, as a parent, are responsible to teach them.
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Old 03-16-2011, 02:27 PM
 
Location: NC
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its different for all kids.

my 12 yo dd knows all about it (sex, babies, etc) already. it helps that i got pregnant when she was 7 maybe, had to explain where he came from. no stork came to our house in the middle of the night LOL
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