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Julia .... I had a lovely response all typed out, and you thwarted me! Thwarted, I tell you. Probably a smart move on your part.
Signed,
A Harpie.
How's everyone doing today? I have been feeling like poo for a couple of days, thanks for asking, but I am feeling better today. Bet you're all glad you know that.
coop - glad Mrcoop fixed your AC.
Ewag - sorry about the bed thing. We have had a few episodes like that, but I've just generally found that not making a big deal of it lets it subside on it's own. There are some things we disciplined straight away for, like being rude and inconsiderate - and pitching fits if one did not get one's own way. Those would be naughty step offenses.
Actually, MissFR has not been on the naughty step for a few weeks now. Last night we had our usual discussion about changing the tv over from NickJr to Jeopardy, an event that usually begets some kind of hissy fit. So as soon as she started the wailing about wanting to watch "her" shows, I said "if you start carrying on you'll have to go to the naughty step, we need to share the tv" and she turned off the bad attitude like a light and said "OK Mommy, you can watch Jeopardy now" - and actually handed me the remote. (not that I need her permission to change the channel - but it's a real step in the right direction - one thing at a time ).
Occasional bouts of not wanting to go to bed, or not wanting to eat dinner we generally let go - I've found that those things wax and wane and for her have not been onging enough to make a big battle about. And they've gotten less and less over time to the point where they really are non existent now. I figure when she's in school and gets hungry enough and tired enough she'll eat and sleep when she needs to. But she's a bit older than your son, Ewag, and I think she's getting less stubborn and more accepting of stuff as she matures.
Of course, everyone's kid and expectations are different.
Ok, you can all go ahead and make fun of me for watching Jeopardy now. It's become like a tradition in our house - it kind of marks the changeover from day to night, IYKWIM. That's my excuse, anyway.
LOL FR. I love Jeopardy but rarely watch it. I am not one to have the tv on and I forget it's on. Sorry you've been under the weather...
Hope everyone has a lovely day.
Thanks for the support everyone - I was kind of losing it last night!
Thanks, FR! Glad you're feeling better!
And not to worry - we watch Jeopardy, too....DH and I managed to miss the test to get on the show this year but hopefully next year. I think it would be a neat experience, if I managed not to get stage fright
Ugh - the sleep thing is killing me - I don't think it's a defiant thing, I think DS had a lot of life changes (including sort of dropping the nap) and it's messing with his normal sleep routine. Although he does get points for perseverance - he goes to bed by 8 every night, and can manage to entertain himself for 3 to 4 hours! I just worry that 3 months of sleep deprivation are going to take a toll on his health - it certainly has on his mood!
I love the naughty step - that's great! Good job, mom!!
mm - yes, I am the terrible parent that has the TV on all day. I have to have some background noise going on. MissFR will take it or leave it, depending on what's going on - unless you try and change "her" channel, and then you'd think the world was coming to an end.
Zim - awww, I'm sorry your sister has gone. Is it really two weeks already? Geez, what's up with that?
Ewag - yeah, if he's not being defiant, then it's hard to know how hard ass to get about it. We had a big move when MissFR was three, across the 3 hour time zone, so we just let her adjust on her own. Zim is right, it really doesn't last forever.
But just so you have it - here's the link of Samuel L Jackson reading that book - you may have to sign in to view it, I didn't post the video because it's totally NSFCD.
FR...if there was more on I was interested in I'd have it on...generally no one is home during the day and I don't think to turn it on when I get home. I know that DH will take care of that the minute he walks through the door!
ewag - I remember when I had to nix the naps. It was when I finally realized that it was taking me longer to finally get him to sleep than he actually slept! Then then feeling of, "crap! now I've lost those couple hours of quite to myself....".
Seemed my son did it sooner than most others. I think around 3ish. We never had a lot of trouble with bedtime at a younger age that I can remember. But really, Fin is right, they will generally work it out on their own. It's not worth the battle for a short term thing. Would possibly changing a route of some sort work?
I do also remember when our son got older and I gave up on a bedtime. (Talking middle school here). I thought I needed to make sure he got "x" amount of sleep and there seemed to be a lot of arguing. It was amazing how he totally self regulated himself once I sort of gave up. A few times of being exhausted quickly stopped that. Obviously this doesn't work for all kids because some won't care if they are tired and it's effecting their school work/grades. Most of the time he's in bed now WAY before we are!
ewag - I remember when I had to nix the naps. It was when I finally realized that it was taking me longer to finally get him to sleep than he actually slept! Then then feeling of, "crap! now I've lost those couple hours of quite to myself....".
Seemed my son did it sooner than most others. I think around 3ish. We never had a lot of trouble with bedtime at a younger age that I can remember. But really, Fin is right, they will generally work it out on their own. It's not worth the battle for a short term thing. Would possibly changing a route of some sort work?
I do also remember when our son got older and I gave up on a bedtime. (Talking middle school here). I thought I needed to make sure he got "x" amount of sleep and there seemed to be a lot of arguing. It was amazing how he totally self regulated himself once I sort of gave up. A few times of being exhausted quickly stopped that. Obviously this doesn't work for all kids because some won't care if they are tired and it's effecting their school work/grades. Most of the time he's in bed now WAY before we are!
Just remember - it won't last forever!
Thanks, coop! I really appreciate the suggestions from the moms who have been through this already! I think I'm hypersensitive about sleep issues because I have had life-long sleep disturbances myself - I'll keep reminding myself that this situation doesn't necessarily mean we'll have trouble for all time!
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Probably a smart move on your part. 
(not that I need her permission to change the channel - but it's a real step in the right direction - one thing at a time 
).
I just worry that 3 months of sleep deprivation are going to take a toll on his health - it certainly has on his mood!