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Urrgghh! So many people we know are in the process of getting divorced. It's very depressing. I wonder if summer is to blame or what?
I think people have just gotten so battered by the endless bad economic news that they've depleted all their reserves and just can't cut anyone any slack anymore. We know so many couples who have divorced. I'm hoping that at this point dh and I are pretty divorce-proof; we've been hit by all the top ten stressors at least once, at this point (other than maybe addiction or incarceration, knock wood).
Sorry to hear that Zim...I think Aconite is right...lots of people are just discouraged. That and honestly, parenting can really take a lot out of you - especially if you find you are on different pages...which sometimes doesn't become apparent until you're in the midst of things. A certain "way" or philosophy can sound good .... until you get there....it's just tough.
I'm pretty sure you are both right. I suspect people were living the high life (not literally), maxed out on credit and such, and when things started to unravel the stress was too much. It's tough watching people trying to sell homes, and moms who have been out of the work-force for a while trying to find jobs in this economy.
I guess with divorce rates so high it's inevitable. The hardest ones are relationships that appeared so happy. Either they are able to hide it well, or a sudden incident. Anyway, you are right MM, doesn't really matter why, sucks for the family.
Sometimes divorce really is necessary, though. When my parents got divorced, not one single person in the entire family was upset about it. Everyone was much happier from it, actually. Of course, there was emotional abuse involved before the divorce.
This isn't the case in most instances, but sometimes it really is.
I'm pretty sure you are both right. I suspect people were living the high life (not literally), maxed out on credit and such, and when things started to unravel the stress was too much. It's tough watching people trying to sell homes, and moms who have been out of the work-force for a while trying to find jobs in this economy.
Yeah, after the 200th application, I quit looking, and figured it was a sign from the Gods to find a different way to manage. The fact that we weren't living way above our means to begin with helped. When the business boom collapsed, we didn't have quite so far to fall-- we got pretty bruised, but nothing fatal.
Sometimes divorce really is necessary, though. When my parents got divorced, not one single person in the entire family was upset about it. Everyone was much happier from it, actually. Of course, there was emotional abuse involved before the divorce.
This isn't the case in most instances, but sometimes it really is.
Oh, sure. My parents never should have married in the first place. How they managed to stay together as long as they did is a brilliant illustration of two people beating their heads against different walls.
I don't know if they looked happy from the outside or not. From inside, it was kind of this fascinating, and abjectly dreadful, spectacle. Kind of like the end of Fantasia, when they play Night on Bald Mountain, and all the demons are dancing. Their divorce, in many respects, was Ave Maria.
Dh's parents, otoh, were Ozzie and Harriet. Fortunately, I learn well from bad examples, and he, from good ones. Imagine if it were the other way around...
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