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I could not imagine doing such a thing with my daughter! I want her to respect me out of love, not respect me because she fears me. I raise my voice, but to call names, and use profanity...never
Well....frankly I wouldn't speak that way to anyone so to kids..of course not I'm not above the occasional expletive but not in that way. My words tend more toward the "oh ****" variety ... and not in the presence of children.
Would you or have you even spoken to your young child like this. If so why?
To answer your question, NO! I would never use those words on my child. It's a shame and sad to me that a question of would we speak to our children this way even has to be asked. Any mother using the words "f'ing b" to their child doesn't deserve that child.
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I don't even use the word "stupid" around my child. I don't know why I hate when someone calls another person stupid, but it really bothers me. I can't imagine calling DD a female dog. That doesn't even make sense. .
I don't like calling someone "stupid" or "dumb", that bothers me and makes me sad for what it's doing to the person's self esteen.
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When my mom frustrates me, I threaten to throw her in an un-airconditioned nursing home and give the staff strict instructions that she must always be fully dressed in flannel with a thick blanket on her.
We live in FL by the way.
You must be young. Be careful what you say, you just might eat those words someday. I find your humor offensive being I'm living the nightmare of my mom in a nursing home. You don't know what I'd give to have her here and frustrating me.
You must be young. Be careful what you say, you just might eat those words someday. I find your humor offensive being I'm living the nightmare of my mom in a nursing home. You don't know what I'd give to have her here and frustrating me.
I understand. It is a family joke. She is always really hot, so we say it in a teasing way. It is kind of a tension breaker in my family and it always makes everyone laugh. I am sorry if it didn't come across that way in my post.
That is the way my mother spoke to us when we were kids. Now she doesn't remember that at all. It is hurtful to her if I ever bring it up. I forgave her years ago, and I didn't speak that way to our kids. Someone has to break the cycle.
You know, the original post makes me feel bad because as a parent, it reminds me of all the bad things I've said and done around my kids. Yes, cussing, losing temper, irrational behavior, etc. Unfortunately, I can relate to the person in the original post, maybe not as acute, but I understand what was going through her mind.
My parents swore around me and jokingly as a kid. Calling each other names seriously wasn't okay, though. In spite of all that, my parents did the best job they could raising me and I would say our respect for each other was more so than many other children and parents who insisted on not using profanity. I can't see myself ever using profanity out of anger around kids the way this mother was, though.
You know, the original post makes me feel bad because as a parent, it reminds me of all the bad things I've said and done around my kids. Yes, cussing, losing temper, irrational behavior, etc. Unfortunately, I can relate to the person in the original post, maybe not as acute, but I understand what was going through her mind.
I think it happens to the best of us on occasion. There have been some times when my parents were really angry and called me a name, and a few times I did the same to them. I can count both on one hand, though. We knew it wasn't okay and always apologized afterwards. The most important thing is that overall we had and still have a relationship based on love and respect.
You know, the original post makes me feel bad because as a parent, it reminds me of all the bad things I've said and done around my kids. Yes, cussing, losing temper, irrational behavior, etc. Unfortunately, I can relate to the person in the original post, maybe not as acute, but I understand what was going through her mind.
I can see maybe getting so mad you call your child a brat, but not a Fing *****, that is taking it way to far IMO.
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