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Then that's that. Attendance at family outings are not mandatory; never have been, never will be. For the balance of this weekend, stay away from the phone and hang out with friends. Go see a movie. Head into Monday ready to work like the adult that you are.
The "doing something later" is likely never to happen.
Actually Dad is out of town on business and would miss the events too, so I'm not the only one. I've already made a vacation request that was approved and taking Monday off or even half a day off would be unapproved, leading to sanctions. I do not feel the need to cave into my Mom's demands just because my sis is graduating again and she feels the need to celebrate the event mid day on a weekday. I suggested to Mom that we have a meal together in the evening/another day but was told sis' boyfriend's Mom is only here a couple of days. Mom even claimed that Sis didn't want to do it on my day off/another time but I think that's BS, it could be Mom trying to get her way.
About the doing something later, I proposed we have a 2nd second get together when Dad returns. It may not be as good as being there the day of the graduation, but better than nothing.
It's the second graduation for the OP's sister. I have a feeling that the OP hasn't gotten a degree, so there might be a bit more to the story... Regardless, this is between the OP and the graduate/sister.
Attendance at family outings are not mandatory; never have been, never will be.
That's true but Mom has a tendency to guilt trip me into the fact that I've often missed family outings in the past when I used to work both weekend days, for example. Recently my schedule changed giving me Sundays off and so my attendance has improved, but it's easy to label me as the black sheep for past performance (availability).
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Originally Posted by Zenstyle
For the balance of this weekend, stay away from the phone and hang out with friends. Go see a movie. Head into Monday ready to work like the adult that you are.
So you're saying I need to hide from Mom? I was actually thinking of visiting her and borrowing my Dad's bicycle, or going out with her for a walk, etc. while he's away. I might have to stay home and do other stuff though so I can avoid her because I know she'll have a fit if I tell her in person.
Actually Dad is out of town on business and would miss the events too, so I'm not the only one. I've already made a vacation request that was approved and taking Monday off or even half a day off would be unapproved, leading to sanctions. I do not feel the need to cave into my Mom's demands just because my sis is graduating again and she feels the need to celebrate the event mid day on a weekday. I suggested to Mom that we have a meal together in the evening/another day but was told sis' boyfriend's Mom is only here a couple of days. Mom even claimed that Sis didn't want to do it on my day off/another time but I think that's BS, it could be Mom trying to get her way.
About the doing something later, I proposed we have a 2nd second get together when Dad returns. It may not be as good as being there the day of the graduation, but better than nothing.
Well there you go. These people are here from out of town, but your prior committments are too important to free up your schedule to accomodate them. I can assure you they will feel the same when it's YOUR turn to graduate, get married, etc. The event is being celebrated on a weekday b/c it's being held on a weekday! How long have you known about this graduation?
It's the second graduation for the OP's sister. I have a feeling that the OP hasn't gotten a degree, so there might be a bit more to the story...
Yes it is sis' 2nd graduation. In fact she and her boyfriend are moving out of state to pursue their masters. They're both smart cookies.
But why assume that I don't have a degree myself? I frankly don't see what you're trying to get at, but feel free to explain.
Looks like some further clarifications are in order. The reason I can't go to both the ceremony and the lunch is because they both conflict with my work schedule. The ceremony starts right before my shift starts and it's insufficient time to get back to the office on time. Mom's lunch get together is during my shift. I have only 30 mins allocated to lunch and together with travel + from the restaurant she booked, it's simply impossible to attend.
well, then you have your excuse. Your mom doesn't have to approve. You can't go. period.
Well there you go. These people are here from out of town, but your prior committments are too important to free up your schedule to accomodate them.
I'm sorry if keeping my commitment to my job, the only income I have is not accommodating my mom and sis. Are you suggesting that to stay in Mom's (and the family's) good graces, I should just skip work Monday and hope not to be fired? An unexcused absence without a doctor's note is a terminable offense.
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Originally Posted by Katiana
How long have you known about this graduation?
My vacation request was made and approved before I knew about the graduation.
I'm sorry if keeping my commitment to my job, the only income I have is not accommodating my mom and sis. Are you suggesting that to stay in Mom's (and the family's) good graces, I should just skip work Monday and hope not to be fired? An unexcused absence without a doctor's note is a terminable offense.
My vacation request was made and approved before I knew about the graduation.
I'm suggesting you appeal to your boss to either let you come in late, or have a little more time off at lunch to celebrate your sister's graduation. If your boss says no, then you've done all you could. Forget the power struggle with your mom.
I'm suggesting you appeal to your boss to either let you come in late, or have a little more time off at lunch to celebrate your sister's graduation. If your boss says no, then you've done all you could. Forget the power struggle with your mom.
if it means she'll get written up or something, I don't think she should do that.
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