What do you owe to a child who has a large family?

[nana053]

Originally Posted by Ivorytickler

To be honest, given the way their lives are structured, I really wonder why they keep having kids. I just shake my head. It's their life, not mine so I guess I'll leave them to it. I agree on no male figure in their lives but visiting us once a month isn't going to help there. I'm not sure what can be done there. Dss earns a very nice paycheck but that's all he is to her and the kids. A visiting paycheck. He pays the bills and is around every few weekends for a couple of days. Other than that, they talk on the phone. The economy being what it is, I don't see him getting a 9-5 job any time soon. Given he's not around, I don't get her spreading herself so thin but this is what she insists on. They argue about every baby and then they have one. Her argument is he should let her have as many as she wants because he's not here raising them anyway. I just scratch my head.... It's their life to live not mine.

From your original post:

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My step son and his wife had baby #5 back in March. ******** (They are planning #6 BTW)

I hestitate to ask, but WHY would your stepson be planning for #6 given he is not around. If he is not around, why the heck does he want another one?

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by Ivorytickler

This is one of my problems. People think that because I can deal with a class of 30 11th graders I should be able to deal with 4 pre/grade school children. NO SO. Totally different can of worms. The only way I can deal with all four is to have my girls each take two. I have two kids for a reason. I couldn't handle 5.

she's only asking you to take 2 at a time!!!

Originally Posted by Ivorytickler

Actually, I'd love to spend time with the kids. I just don't want to spend time with their mother and I don't want to get sucked into a rotating schedule where I have grandchildren expecting me to come when I know my life won't allow that after the summer.

Everyone knows you are a teacher and have to go back to work including your DIL. There is NO REASON you can't do this for the summer, then cut back or stop. NO REASON. I pointed that our pages ago, but you ignored it.

[JustJulia]

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